Re: To say or not to say?
I agree! Personal experience says let your husband speak to them if it’s impacting you etc. this way they won’t have an excuse to say anything negative about you later on.
In my case when my husband confronted his family about a certain member of his family who was directly impacting me, it was not pretty. I didn’t push my husband for anything after it, but waited for his decision on what he wants to do about it because I didn’t want him to tell me later on that I forced a decision upon him. In fact after he made his decision, I asked him to reconsider, but he was adamant.
Sometimes it’s best to think things through with a cool mind. If husband has already tried talking and nothing is coming out of it then decide whether this matter is important enough to fight over because it may cause problems in your marriage.