Re: To Laugh or To Cry
I completely agree with you Mamzie. Some individuals are terribly unrealistic in their demands, and bluntly put, deeply deluded. I believe that this behaviour begins with the parents. If families sat down with their sons/daughters and explained to them how ridiculous and unrealistic their demands are and persuaded them to be more realistic and focus on more important factors, the number of people with ridiculous demands would not be as high as it is. Unfortunately though, in many cases parents seem to support their children’s delusions. They only realise just how absurd their demands are once they’ve been turned down by several prospects and have difficulty finding further prospects.
I also find it rather unfortunate that the “rishta” process is becoming quite crass. It has begun to look more like a job interview or a business transaction where people approach one another with their list of demands rather than two people respectfully getting to know each other and deciding whether they’ll be compatible as spouses. People often approach a potential prospect check list in hand (practically) and go on to “interview” indelicately them as if they were purchasing a house, interviewing for a loan with the bank, or making some other large transaction. It’s equally unfortunate that families and matchmakers don’t make any effort to discourage this and often do the opposite. It’s quite sad and possibly the reason many people find it difficult to find a spouse.
parents telling their kids how unrealistic their demands are? common when it comes for a boy’s rishta it is mostly and mostly parents particularly mothers along with sisters who have such unrealistic demands, in many cases the guys themselves are not even aware of how many girls their moms are looking and turning down.