like I said for both cases if it's about outlook, it should be accepted and encouraged from both sides when both are completely and wholeheartedly willing to do so. Either a woman wearing hijab or a man keeping a beard
ermm............... you mean............ wife should wear hijab when both are willing too?
I strongly believe that the husband and wife should grow and learn together. So if the husband or wife starts getting more inclined towards religion they should encourage the other partner. This way there is no big shocks or disagreements. Obviously no two people will be on the exact same page but Islam teaches one to be humble, patient and understanding. I would hope and pray the partner whose faith is stronger would show these qualities for the other and help them achieve them too. This is a marriage we are talking about, a partnership not a competition. Both parties have to work on things equally hard. Sometimes one give and other takes and vice versa.
when you say both should work together or something.....does that include the right/wish/inclination of the wife to wear hijab also??
what i am not getting is............. whether the choice to opt for the religious appearance is of the individual only?? or it has to be couple's mutual decision ??
CDG ur absolutely right....encouragement apni jagah pe hai but one shouldnt be forcing the other into anything...encouragement is separate from requiring it or forcing someone....m just saying
forcing/encouraging and prohibiting/stopping and
you guys are talking only about forcing/encouraging..........
i would rephrase/repeat
what i am not getting is............. whether the choice to opt for (or opt out of) the religious appearance is of the individual only?? or it has to be couple's mutual decision ??
when you say both should work together or something.....does that include the right/wish/inclination of the wife to wear hijab also??
what i am not getting is............. whether the choice to opt for the religious appearance is of the individual only?? or it has to be couple's mutual decision ??
Yes, absolutely. So lets say I get married and I start listening to lectures and reading books on Islam I would share whatever I learn with my husband. I would also encourage him to start reading stuff on his own. Talk to him what I am thinking and feeling about it. If I come across teh passage which says a woman must wear hijab I would discuss it with my husband. BTW I don't know any woman who started wearing hijab the second she read about it...its takes time and strength even after she has made the decision to start wearing. This would be the time she should discuss with her husband about wearing hijab. This is NOT to say if the husband says no you can't wear it and he is being unreasonable she shouldn't wear it. Once she has tried her best she should go ahead and wear the hijab because she tried to make the transition easy. Same would be true if the husband starts thinking of changing his outward look. He should try to reasonably explain to his wife BUT if she flatly refuses he has done his part and should go ahead with what he felt was right.
Although, comparing hijab with beard is incorrect. One is fard and one is sunna - there is a difference.
it was just an example……if one decides to do either of the two (for whatever reasons) be it sunnah or fard or whatever… its the decision that matters not the underlying cause (and validity of that )
Oh ho, itna upset honay wali kya baat hai. I just wanted to point that out. Anyways in simple words the decision is up to the individual but in a marriage anytime wife/husband does something or plans on doing something they should try their best to get their spouse to agree as well.
Nomi I think ur not exactly getting the answer to your question
i understand ur question differently from how others understand it
to me you're asking if the wife should have issues with the husband wants to keep a beard for example and i think she shouldnt have an issue with how religious he becomes or wants to become and there should be no problems with him encouraging her to do the same as long as he isnt breathing down her neck and making her do it or forcing her into,,...but as far as what he does for himself he should be free to do that also the wife shouldnt force him to remain the way he is if he wants the change
to me you're asking if the wife should have issues with the husband wants to keep a beard for example and i think she shouldnt have an issue with how religious he becomes or wants to become and there should be no problems with him encouraging her to do the same as long as he isnt breathing down her neck and making her do it or forcing her into,,...but as far as what he does for himself he should be free to do that also the wife shouldnt force him to remain the way he is if he wants the change
Yes, but no because I think there should be a dialogue between the two.
Yes, but no because I think there should be a dialogue between the two.
there should be...none of it should come as a surprise...but at the same time if one partner suddenly decides to be more religious i would think it would be wrong of the other partner to stop the one wanting to become more religious whether thats in appearance or act
…if one decides to do either of the two (for whatever reasons) be it sunnah or fard or whatever… its the decision that matters not the underlying cause (and validity of that )