to have found and lost :(

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Re: to have found and lost :frowning:

You know I got to admit you girls can make a discussion out of nothing.

I am impressed…

NOT!!

It reminded me where is BBQ these days? :hmmm:

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dont want to discuss anymore, u give the solution MONK

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U girls need to grow smarter :snooty:

Only solution.

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interesting conversation :hmmm:

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Thank you.

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how do we get to b as smart as you?
i dont want to B*tch at you, but u are a pain in the ass :)

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:D

That's how.

U just identify a problem correctly, :D
Nice work.

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pink let us know what u do...

Monk, bless you!

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A sincere guy will still give it a shot i guess...but i guess theres a difference b/w "no lift/ignore" and "showing attitude (and snapping the person)"...i think in the first scenario...if the girl is ignoring him...or giving him a "no lift" attitude...he might be interested in sending a proper proposal at her place....infact this is the way things happen (mostly).....you like someone and u send the proposal...u dont need to be in a relationship with them...theres a clear line between ignoring and insulting!
However if this girl has offended him someway or had been very rude to him...specially infront of others...if this is what she means by giving the attitude...i dont think he will be interested anymore!

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you are welcome :cb: :stuck_out_tongue:

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I know :snooty:

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Thanks for all the posts everyone! :flower1:

@ T100: I am not proud of anything, all my friends know I’m very down to earth but in this particular situation I didn’t know how else to react :frowning: …I like your second advice and Im gonna try to try this!

@ Marwa, chaman and partyslims: My sis says the same thing to me…thanks for the post..I am gonna be bold now!

@ angeleyes: I am sure through a lot of things which I would share here if I could…

@ Monk: guys have some self esteem and he was little bit of a narcissist and would not be able to take rejection, maybe thats why he didn’t say it. And stop making fun of me..this is serious business! :vivo:

@ Spiral: I am not engaged…and I think I am sure he did.

@ dulhan2: thanks alot for sharing this :slight_smile: … he asked me for a drink together once but I changed the topic and started talking about something else, which was not completely intentional…it was something already going on in my mind and I said it and forgot about the drink :bummer:

@ Miainva: I think I needed to hear that. but I don’t know if its true, if it is I would be happy cuz I’d know then I am not making yet another mistake.

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Man oh man.

If he is not married or dead, hes not lost.

If you are looking for trouble, then take the plunge. Dive and see what happens...

Once I read in the credits of a beautiful song: "Love only happens once, rest is just life..."

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This ladies is why you don't watch bloodywood movies. A guy will only try so much before finding a woman who actually shows interest as well.

Now Pink. Man I gotta listen to Aerosmith now. Anyway what is it that you want out of this? Your parents are already hooking you with Guy B. You love Guy A but blew him off for a long time.

What do you want us to say?

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I never insulted him. Let me explain what I meant by the attitude part...what I did was just to be indifferent towards the idea of it, as if I don't have the slightest of an idea what he's trying to tell..he gave me the clearest signals anyone could but I still kept pretending I don't get whats going on. It was all un-intentional. I didn't know how to react so I chose "not to react at all" which was a very bad decision...

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My parents wont force any decision on me…my mom is very supportive and I can tell her the whole thing whenever I want. Gosh, there are so many tid bits of this scenario which would reveal everything if shared, but I cant :bummer: …what did I want from this topic?

  1. To see if there is any point in contacting him again.
  2. If a guy really likes someone, how willing are they to pursue it or conversely let it go so easily.
  3. Do you guys believe that coincidences happen for a reason?
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  1. No clue. Only you have the answer to that. If he says no. What are you gonna do?
  2. How long? Depends on the guy. But more importantly it depends on how the girl reacted. If she was cold most guys will try for a certain period. A few weeks/months depending how stubborn they are. After that its long gone.
  3. Err....no.
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Also I have been facing this dilemma for quiet some time now, and now I want this to be "aar ya paar"...either get over him once and for all and go ahead with stuff or give it one shot..

It is very painful to be in my position...Its like having the inability to budge and be stubbornly frozen in a place and time that doesn't exist. I need a dhakka start towards life.

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it totally depend on the guy and the your “un-intentional” behavior. Honestly, not a single guy will wait for that long and i can put money on that you would not have felt these feelings for him if he had not disappeared. I don’t know why but i am feeling that you gave a lot of “Green signals” to the guy showing that you are considering him for granted.

He asked for a drink and you ignored. Just put yourself in that situation that you asked your close friend (don’t even think about some guy, just a friend) and she ignored your words .. how would you feel? Humiliated? yeah . you should!

He gave you signals and you “un-intentionall” ignored. Seriously, you gave him clear SIGNALS that “dude, get a life, i am not interested in you. go find someone else”.

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Ok..thanks for the reply. I am going to contact him soon, within the next week. Thanks a lot for the second answer, I had been thinking abt this for a long time now.

why would you not believe in coincidences? I mean if there are too many in a row, wouldn't it get a bit weird..