This is a hypothetical situation that I am seenig happen way too much lately. You decide if its a big deal or not.
You’re invited to a wedding/birthday/get together by a third person.
the guest of honor (the bride/birthday girl/whatever) never contacts you at all before the event.
Now given today’s busy lives where invitations are mailed instead of the personal visits back in the day, I can understand the shift…however, a text/phone call from the host herself and not a third person is reasonable no?
In regards to weddings, I understand the elders are the ones to inform the other family members and friends; however I believe it is less formal and less strict with peers.
Would you brush it off and still go? Or feel offended and not go?
This 'busy life style' thing is just a stupid excuse, baqwaas.
Nobody is that busy that he cannot contact you by him/herself (unless if you are the director of the Worl bank or something like that).
I would go ..... I don't care about formalities. It might be because I'm king of used to it as its a norm in my mom's side of the family, which is HUGE. Tons of people are invited to every wedding, so usually they just send the wedding cards through a relative.
unless it is a surprise party being thrown for the guest of honor, I wouldn't go. If the b-day girl herself is doing the inviting, and had time to invite others but not you...i would not go.
I HATE this types of non-vites! How hard is it to pick up the phone and spend a few minutes chatting and extend an invitation? I understand big weddings and too many people to call. But, divide the telephone calls amongst all of your family members and call over a few weeks. If you're too busy to call me and tell me about your happy news, you're too busy to need or want my company at a party.
It depends. If the person throwing the party doesn't know you that well, and told someone to invite you, they should always specify: "Please invite Sara516 for me because I don't have her contact # and would really like her to attend. Please convey this for me." I would go in that situation. If the invitation is something like "Oh, person X is having a party, you should come too" then I would not go. It all depends on how well you know the "event" person, and how the message was relayed, so the result would be different in every scenario.
So what if the hosts do not contact you in particular but they contact your parents instead saying that you were invited as well? I definitely wouldn't have a problem attending the event just because they didn't invite me in person.
Now, if I got an invite from a random third party and the hosts don't contact me at all before the event then I'd probably not go.
WOW! Thanks for the input guys… I had made up my mind but wanted to get some opinions as well…I’m surprised, I was thinking alot of ppl would think it doesnt matter and would attend…
