To go or not to go

[Sara516]

@cricketplaya

Hate to break it to ya.... the host doesn't care if you come or not, one less stomach or 2! :)

Yep, and one less gift for them :)

@Sehrysh

I HATE this types of non-vites! How hard is it to pick up the phone and spend a few minutes chatting and extend an invitation? I understand big weddings and too many people to call. But, divide the telephone calls amongst all of your family members and call over a few weeks. If you're too busy to call me and tell me about your happy news, you're too busy to need or want my company at a party.

I wouldn't go.

I understand at a wedding where there are no formal written invitations for whatever reason...so the close relative of the bride/groom invites you (i.e., their parent or sibling)...thats acceptable.

@Syraa

So what if the hosts do not contact you in particular but they contact your parents instead saying that you were invited as well? I definitely wouldn't have a problem attending the event just because they didn't invite me in person.

Now, if I got an invite from a random third party and the hosts don't contact me at all before the event then I'd probably not go.

I think that's okay. but i'm talking about when its your own peers...I think things get less formal with someone of your own age, don't they?

[Sara516]

@djmi

Im seeing it happen with dawats as well. Dawat invites over the phone by a third person. Whats wrong with people?

I find myself saying that way too often in too many situations. :no:

[AngelEyess]

Re: To go or not to go

I wont go....if i were the host and wud really want someone to come...i will make sure i or any of my sibling call or atleast send an invite!

[Scarface]

@Sara516

I find myself saying that way too often in too many situations. :no:

take your entire neighborhood with you and tell the hosts that was what you were told by the invitee.
Next time, they will make sure they personally invite you

[soni27]

no one cares..so its up to u..

at the least..ull miss out on a free rich desi meal

[Sara516]

Re: To go or not to go

^ No way is it free...

More often than not if u go to a birthday party or wedding/engagement, a gift is necessary.

Why should I spend any money on someone who didn't bother to spare five minutes?

[soni27]

just give them an old gift certificate or a just a card in a pretty envelope ..:@:

[Sara516]

Re: To go or not to go

I dont' have any old gift certificate, and cards cost money too.

Wait....

is a greeting card an acceptable gift? :D

[soni27]

Re: To go or not to go

LOL .. yeah sure..id give it ;)

[McLovin]

Re: To go or not to go

If they have not got the decency to even call you and just send you a invite in the post - then I would not conisder them a real friend and not go. They just sent it to play with your mind.

Lets say in the future you fight with them - they would say we sent you a card (meaning they did their part!) and its your fault for not turning up. They will act as if they are in the right.

Its all about Mind games!!

[MissChievous]

Re: To go or not to go

Or, you could attend khaali haat! Say the invitee was a little vaque on the details! ;)

[chic-chick]

Re: To go or not to go

I will not go, except:

1- if it is close friend, then I won't mind, but if I find out he/she called other personally and I get a call from someone else, he/she is deadmeat.
2- If I am staying with parents, or parents in law, host then telling them to get us is also fine.

I will consider this rude and will not want to go except for the 2 situations I stated above.
Doesn't matter how busy ppl are nowadays if someone has time and energy to organize a party then they should care enough to call ppl themselves, otherwise it sends 'I don't care' signal.