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[note] Please refrain form putting down other religions even if you disagree. [/note]
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yeah, it’s OK…even with close friends. It’s not like anyone is looking at me and falling in love with my moves 
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Niksik: How can anyone know what are the thoughts of the person watching? I think you were really sleepy when posted that. :)
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Trust me, i know how ridiculous it sounds but the truth is the truth. I think it is more of a thing that if a girl is dancing she must be outgoing and cheerful and what not.
Agree with that surely. I have seen these girls getting rishta offers right, left and center.
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True. Somehow I don’t think any of my family members will be looking at me in a negative sort of way…it’s just an expectation. But the again, kya pataa 
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Agree with that surely. I have seen these girls getting rishta offers right, left and center.
On the flip side there are some who'll think a girl has loose morals just because they saw her dance in a wedding.
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So true ^^But I guess in that case the girls dancing probably dont care about ristha offers ( or the lack thereof) from such folks.
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@EDAL... WOW that is quite a few weddings all over the place. Ive been to a handful of weddings too and there was dancing in all of them(mixed in most), but to be fair I have only been to New England weddings and there were pretty much no hijabis in sight. So maybe that is a factor.
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There is a whole group of people who go around from city to city in North America, and go to Muslim peoples houses and invite them to the mosque for lectures etc.
Most Pakistani people, especially in America already don't have mixed dancing weddings anyway.
And when those people ring my doorbell (which lately, has been about once a month), I choose not to answer. I take my kids to the masjid (which is about 3 miles from my house) for Quran class 3 days a week, and they go to Sunday School every week from 10-2pm. I'd say that's a pretty good chunk of our lives spent at the masjid, and we enjoy every second of it. I don't need bearded stranges showing up at my doorstep telling me how to be a better Muslim.
And as far as most Pakistani people in America go, I can honestly say that I have NEVER been to a wedding in my 30+ years of being born and raised here where there was not dancing, mixed or segregated. I guess that makes me/my family/social circle a bunch of god forsaken heathens.
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I am with you, bud. Now stop banging that head - not good for you.
He's not banging his head. He's telling you, he thinks you're a moron and it's pointless trying to explain his superior logic to you. These are the other ways he communicates the same feelings --> :) and ;)
The rest of us are well versed in diwana smiley communications, ergo my providing the translation services.
P.S. That's not my opinion of you - I don't know you well enough to have an opinion. I'm just explaining diwana-speak to the uninitiated.
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^ Thanks! Fortunately or unfortunately, I am al too familiar with Diwana Saab-speak
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You two sound as if you have done research and pHD on me. But very sorry to say you are still not quite there. 
Keep trying. Who knows some day you will get there! 
My well wishes and prayers for you. 
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Ph.D or PhD
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wow. I was friggin FORCED to dance at my cousins' weddings. Scaring away potential rishtas in the process
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wow. I was friggin FORCED to dance at my cousins' weddings. Scaring away potential rishtas in the process
Rishta or no rishta. No one can predict.
But you seem to have blown away men who have religious minds or those who are not in to women dancing in a crowd.
**A Humble Advice:
One should look into how many men really would like their "potential wives" dancing in a crowd (regardless of the gender of the crowd) before embarking on dancing all open in desi marriages/social gatherings.**
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Rishta or no rishta. No one can predict.
But you seem to have blown way men who have religious minds or those who are not in to women dancing in a crowd.
**A Humble Advice:
One should look into how many men really would like their "potential wives" dancing in a crowd (regardless of the gender of the crowd) before embarking on dancing all open.**
Thanks ghandi. It was only a matter of time before somebody unleashed the holier than thou comments. For the record, my family are moderate middle of the road in terms of religion. It was supposed to be a light hearted humourous comment but if ur gonna get all heavy and serious then you go right ahead
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Thanks ghandi. It was only a matter of time before somebody unleashed the holier than thou comments. For the record, my family are moderate middle of the road in terms of religion. It was supposed to be a light hearted humourous comment but if ur gonna get all heavy and serious then you go right ahead
Who is ghandi?
It was not me. You said "scaring away potential rishtas in process". Short memory syndrome?
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We dont dance in my family. Its a big no-no. Actually most people dont dance at weddings here. Recently girls related to the bride or groom has started to shake a bit when most guests have left. I dont really classify it as dancing tho.
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jaldio bataoo bhai kia faisla howa? danceNA hai n nahi danceNA hai? song khatam ho jayee ga 