This isn;t directed to the good muslim women who didnt engage in sex before marriage out the the fear of allah and sure they deserve a likewise man
but this thread is more directed to the party animals out there who have done everything under the sun and now want a virgin husband just for the sake of their insecurity.
Your husband might be a shy paindoo but you cant deny that he never had desires before meeting you, been curious about the female anatomy maybe even had fantasies about sex! Afterall he is a man and a human being. So i guess no one is purely innocent and you must get all this crap out of your heads
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Being that I have never ever been engaged in any physical relationship, or even let any male sit closer to me, I think i lcan still consider a boy who is not virgin provided I like him as a person over all and he has done touba sincerely and wants to have a clean life in future.
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Being that I have never ever been engaged in any physical relationship, or even let any male sit closer to me, I think i lcan still consider a boy who is not virgin provided I like him as a person over all and he has done touba sincerely and wants to have a clean life in future.
Thank you. Finally someone said something I was trying to convey in other thread. :)
To OP, if a woman did tauba then she is as good as before engaging in any such activites.
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Being that I have never ever been engaged in any physical relationship, or even let any male sit closer to me, I think i lcan still consider a boy who is not virgin provided I like him as a person over all and he has done touba sincerely and wants to have a clean life in future.
FT...do you think though you will be compromising on a very basic right of yours when you consider a non-virgin male for marriage? Do you think you're being put in this position because as a woman...you will end up compromising more in life so you have no choice but to accept a non-virgin male?
Basically, is this consideration out of majboori? A majboori because you're a bebass and mazloom aurat?
Thank you. Finally someone said something I was trying to convey in other thread. :)
To OP, if a woman did tauba then she is as good as before engaging in any such activites.
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FT...do you think though you will be compromising on a very basic right of yours when you consider a non-virgin male for marriage? Do you think you're being put in this position because as a woman...you will end up compromising more in life so you have no choice but to accept a non-virgin male?
Basically, is this consideration out of majboori? A majboori because you're a bebass and mazloom aurat?
Not so fast.
Yes, not so fast. Try not to pollute other people's minds and coerce.
She never said she was bebass or Majboor.
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Yes, not so fast. Try not to pollute other people's minds and coerce.
She never said she was bebass or Majboor.
I made balanced statement as always. :)
Your point is simply that a woman will have to live with men being non-virgins because women dont have as man choices. We supposedly - even in this day and age - have to live a compromising life. Beggers cant be choosers.
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FT...do you think though you will be compromising on a very basic right of yours when you consider a non-virgin male for marriage? Do you think you're being put in this position because as a woman...you will end up compromising more in life so you have no choice but to accept a non-virgin male?
Basically, is this consideration out of majboori? A majboori because you're a bebass and mazloom aurat?
Not so fast.
What you are saying is exactly correct but thats how I would think some 5-6 yrs back when I was not exposed to the real world. Five yrs back I was not considering even the Divorcees just coz the thought of him once being with another woman/already touched a woman, was not acceptable for me. Now the situation has changed altogether. After life has taught me some tough lessons. Now I want him to be true to me and do not lie about anything. I dont want that he reveals all the truths once I have tied the knot with him. I have seen, in two cases, where the grooms told their brides in first 3-4 days of marriage, that they had been involved in such affairs, even one told he was already married in US :( . Tell me where will it leave you if you were the bride?
If I keep this condition that i want a man with absolutely clean past as I have, or a man who has kept his haya protacted for me (his wife) like I have kept mine for him, then prolly i ll never get married :( - Or may be i will get proposals from lots of liars. I cannot stand liars. I pray to Allah that in reward of my modesty and patience, give me a man whose heart is filled with love for me, and whose heart is filled with love for You.
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Hey, paindoo wasn't there in the other thread! :p
FT, you sort of have a bleak view of life though I do like your pragmatism regarding this subject. I do wonder what kind of men you have met that makes you think that all men 'fool around' with women before marriage.
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I have seen, in two cases, where the grooms told their brides in first 3-4 days of marriage, that they had been involved in such affairs, even one told he was already married in US :(
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Let me touch on the marriage issue first. Will the wife live in Pakistan since US law really doesn't allow a 2nd parallel marriage? I think the second wife can still go to the US embassy and cause havoc for her husband back home. I know mormons have multiple marriages but I guess they don't declare it in the US law as such because then they could be arrested and prosecuted.
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Hey, paindoo wasn't there in the other thread! :p
FT, you sort of have a bleak view of life though I do like your pragmatism regarding this subject. I do wonder what kind of men you have met that makes you think that all men 'fool around' with women before marriage.
Let me touch on the marriage issue first. Will the wife live in Pakistan since US law really doesn't allow a 2nd parallel marriage? I think the second wife can still go to the US embassy and cause havoc for her husband back home. I know mormons have multiple marriages but I guess they don't declare it in the US law as such because then they could be arrested and prosecuted.
Muslims who practise it in the UK get round it by doing just the nikah so to non-Muslims she is the 'mistress', prob the same happens in the US..
Tends to lead to a lot of problems eg. the guy could leave the wife and claim they were 'never married' or if he is in a serious accident or dies the second/third/wife obviously have very little in the way of rights to see him or make any decisions in regards to his care or treatment.. Similarly, some couples will do just a nikah and pretend 'common law husband and wife' means something when in legal terms here in the UK there is actually no such thing..
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Thank you. Finally someone said something I was trying to convey in other thread. :)
To OP, if a woman did tauba then she is as good as before engaging in any such activites.
Your point is simply that a woman will have to live with men being non-virgins because women dont have as man choices. We supposedly - even in this day and age - have to live a compromising life. Beggers cant be choosers.
There is no balance there.
Tell me exactly where did you not see the balance in my post.
