To all the men who want a "pure" virgin wife

fat_spartan · May 11, 2011, 4:41pm

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As long as they can get a virgin wife despite their past(or current) behaviour, then they’ll go for it.

Bish · May 11, 2011, 4:44pm

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whats a male whore?

Pakilarka · May 11, 2011, 4:50pm

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Okay Hoping on one bed is enough to take virginity tag away from her. She doesn't have to hop bed to bed.

el_topo · May 11, 2011, 5:04pm

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^ bed to bed; her bed to another's bed.

blessed2006 · May 11, 2011, 8:35pm

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A man wants a pure-virgin wife similarly a woman wants a pure-virgin husband too.

Trust me just like no man will accept a non-virgin wife, a wife wont expect a non-virgin husband either. Saying woman are ok with it-men arenot is clearly wrong. Its surely not that the lady will let it go (and why should she).

PinkOrchids · May 13, 2011, 10:55am

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I am shocked by some of the backward views of men on here - its not the first time i've heard it. So lets take it hypothetically - you have a girlf who is a muslim girl, you end up doing stuff you later regret and then you think, Ok she was a virgin and not now, so I am so over this. When you infact did the deed?

I know Allah Thallah has made women folk Naik and pure and its up to us to keep this intact, until our marriage. But some choose not to as they think they are "in love" with said moron. To be honest, its off putting.

Especially in a generation - where people are finding there own partners for marriage. Where do they draw the line, some people rub out the line all together! And to reitterate with Blessed - and someone here who said - women do not care if there man is not pure. Of course they do! you think just because a women has kept her self in tact and hasn't had any relations of that nature, you think it wouldn't cross her mind? that she wouldn't worry about stds and god knows what else?

Its not ok for men to think thats its perfectly acceptable - that they can have multiple partners and come there wedding demand a pure virgin wife. I am not saying this out of bitterness but logic. If you as a man do not find it acceptable for a women the women will feel the same. And in the eyes of god - it is also wrong. You all need wake up, its not right, its not acceptable because society says its ok, society says alot of whats wrong with the world today is acceptable. Doesn't make it right.

Princess121 · May 13, 2011, 11:40am

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I'm sorry if this has been mentioned before but isn't there something about this in the Quran..? Surah an Nur:

(24:26) Impure women are for impure men and impure men for impure women, and pure women are for pure men and pure men for pure women. They are free from those scandals which the slanderers utter. *22 There is forgiveness for them and honourable provision.

I'm not an Alim and have very limited knowledge. Could someone shed some light about the above verse in realtion to the topic at hand?

Pakilarka · May 13, 2011, 12:41pm

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[Shakir 24:23] ** Surely those who accuse chaste believing women, unaware (of the evil), are cursed in this world and the hereafter**, and they shall have a grievous chastisement.

I am sorry for making such generalization. Well i was intially kidding but i read this ayyat today and now i feel gulity for passing such comment even though it was a joke.

Yes u r rite there r girls out there with good moral values and i shld be careful when am talking about women in general.

I am sorry again.

Now about the topic.

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[Shakir 24:26] Bad women .are for bad men and bad men are for bad women. Good women are for good men and good men are for good women.
[Yusufali 24:26] Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.
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Allah has already settled it for us, those of us who sleep around with any girl they meet and then want a virgin girl to marry. ALLAH has planned something different for you.

Deeba1234 · May 13, 2011, 12:46pm

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Yeah that's true, Princess.. virgins for virgins etc Islamically but there are exceptions eg a Muslim convert arrives with a clean slate and of course some ppl willingly give up their 'right' to marry a virgin even tho they are that themselves..

I don't think this is true of everyone at all.. I've come across guys who will happily marry a non-virgin if *they like/fancy her enough..
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Some of those same guys always used to say they could never marry a girl who had been with someone else then they fell head over heels with someone who had lol..

blessed2006 · May 13, 2011, 12:55pm

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are they pakistani?

Deeba1234 · May 13, 2011, 1:11pm

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^A couple were..

blessed2006 · May 13, 2011, 1:44pm

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^surprising

Krypton · May 13, 2011, 1:49pm

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how many do you know?

Deeba1234 · May 13, 2011, 3:06pm

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Men or desi men or desi virgin men?

All I meant was not all men think that way.. and other factors can override the virgin thing..

Sara516 · May 13, 2011, 3:31pm

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You know I alwyas thought this verse was about a person's overall character, rather than just their virginity status.

Ashy2010 · May 13, 2011, 3:51pm

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I think it does refer to the overall character. Viginity status can be hidden from the world but the nature and character of the person can be easily visible and known to the world. Thats why we give so much importance to compatibility since we click and get attracted to the people with similar values, views and thinking. If I am a very liberal person with modern way of thinking with less focus on Islamic way of living like hijab etc, I will not be attracted to a person with very strict Islamic values and vice versa.

But Allah's power is not limited to choosing the same character guy and girl when they are able to know their compatibility before marriage. Allah chooses the best for people even in arranged marriages. If a divorce happens, it must also be part of Allah's and he might be testing his people.

ZareenKhan · May 13, 2011, 3:55pm

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Your virginity status is a major part of your character. It's not only about having had sex before marriage or not, it says alot about the person's character also i.e their beliefs, strengths of character, morals, etc etc.

Not saying non-virgins are necessairly bad people, but it does show lack of something in their character. No whether that lack is a big deal for you or not would vary from individual to individual.

Naabigh · May 13, 2011, 4:10pm

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If a woman wants to fake the virginity , I bet 95 % Desi men wouldn't even know it :)

so virginity is a just cliché thesedays !

Sara516 · May 13, 2011, 4:29pm

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So then I guess: rape victims, divorcees and widows(widowers) are all "lacking" somethign in character?

*waiting for the "oh but wait THOSE ARE THE EXCEPTIONS EVERYONE ELSE IS BAD!" lecture to start :)

ZareenKhan · May 13, 2011, 4:33pm

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everything can be faked in this world but that doesnt take away from their importance.