Re: To all Married Ladies
I concur.
Re: To all Married Ladies
i concur with ur concureness
Re: To all Married Ladies
yaar in marriage first three year is gr8 and then after 3 yrs life is like moving slowly like a slow train no charms Kids Stuff wife is busy in kids and home HUBBy in Office ....
aur jab bachay Choon choon ki age say nikal aye mean to say when they r 5-6yrs old then wife and hubby they both r relaxed and then life is Wonderful ... school set , family set :)
Re: To all Married Ladies
One thing which is most important in between couples is blind trust on each other and to understand intentions, we both think in a same manner but some time our thoughts differ from each other, so we have to convince why I like this or dislike this? so other will satisfy, its a difficult journey to set our lives.
Re: To all Married Ladies
There are so many variations on marriages depending on personalities. But I think it all boils down to mutual respect and what you brought into the marriage in the first place. Some people are truly looking for a life partner, a soul-mate, a God’s Blessing. And some people just feel like, “now i’m stuck and i just have to deal with this situation.” I don’t think all men of our culture make slaves of their wives and expect her to completely shift her life around for his needs and wants. But it takes mutual respect to understand that there is give and take. Easy to say. Not so easy for everyone to do. Many of our mothers left their homeland, leaving their families and not speaking or seeing them for years sometimes. Imagine a woman in a foreign land, barely speaking the language, having no friends, stuck in the house, unable to drive, isolated and probably wondering to herself, “why am i here, to cook, clean, be HIS wife?”
But over time she adapts, makes friends, gains more skills, maybe even becomes somebody she could never be in her homeland, empowered and strong. I think no matter what the situation if a wife is making sacrifices, it needs to balance out and she needs to find some benefits in that change too. I think I got really lucky. I’ve left my family too. I’ve been in NYC for 5 years and now moving even further away to California. I don’t work outside of home, just raising our kid(s) and doing EVERYTHING else that runs our lives. But my husband is one of those ‘overeducated gentleman with manners’. He completely stands back and lets -wants me to take control of things. I think marriage only gets better with time. You develop a deeper, trust, love and admiration for eachother.
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I think marriage is a wonderful partnership of two souls, of a couple who understand each other well, have an attraction to each other, and are compatible as friends before and beyond anything else. I am single and will remain single until I find my soul mate rather than jump into marriage just for the sake of it. I welcome making compromises but not settling for someone you are so different from. I have seen numerous cases where young girls and guys settle down but after a few years and a baby or two, the marriage is falling apart right in front of everyone. Usually, after all the dholkiyaan and this-and-that iends, that is when reality kicks in. I have some friends who have super marriages mash'allah and have another few friends who are getting divorced or being separated. Gut feeling usually tells a person when marriage with someone is meant to be or not. I would rather be cautious and take the plunge with someone worthwhile for me rather than jump into unknown territory with my eyes closed.