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Nikkahed for 2 years, married for 1 year, as someone said, marriage is different for everyone, but for me its been wonderful Mashallah and its getting better with time. If you go into a marriage without any expectations, then it can only turn well. Of course its not love shove all time. But love is necessary for a healthy marriage life.
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I've said this before but well its important so here we go. If you marry someone who has goals and desires that are similar to yours then things should be fine. We were both working professionals but wanted children, wanted to have a stay-at-home Mom to raise them, the heck with extra income. I knew my hubby for a number of years before we married, we were good friends. Life after marriage is beautiful but it is alot of compromise. But we're partners working toward the same goals - looking at things that way makes compromise easier. There isnt much time to work on romance once the boys arrived but that too is a compromise. We need to sneak our romancing time in when we get a chance, I guess at this point we kind of consider that to be effective birth control lol! Anyway, the trouble marriages that I've seen couldnt be considered partnerships. Look for a partner in life and you'll be all the happier for it.
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Hey Mamaof3 can I have two partners? With your permission ofcourse. This time I'll even bring her here to a mountain top close to Utah instead of Kaka-Khel.
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shabaash :k:
sab larkiyo ki soch aisi ho jaye to duniya main koi problem hi na ho 
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Mr verizon saab, yes you certainly can have 2 partners. The new wifey's name is Heldagard. She weighs 225 lbs and has a wart on her nose with a rather long, dark hair growing out of it. But she is a black belt in karate, is a WUN-DER-ful cook and will keep the house spotless and laundry all done. If you should DARE to enter the house with mud on your shoes, well, the black belt will ensure that you never ever do THAT again. SO want to skedule the wedding me Love??? LOL!!
Kisskiss me love :)
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Could you please leave all that in your bedrooms?
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ok PCG, take my advice....forget it. Stay single. If you cant handle the things said above, then marriage isnt for you. You asked for advice, you got it, you cannot handle it so 'nuff said - you aint ready for marriage or relationship, come back in a decade or so
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Since I worked at a desi store for three years, I had a lot of interaction with desi couples. Many husbands I noticed were a little too bossy and dominant. Often times they would be mildly telling their wives off or being disrespectful to them, while totally forgetting that they aren't at home. On the other hand, I only saw very few bossy wives.
From what I could notice, in most cases, good education and good upbringing made the difference. Where husbands were well-educated and had good upbringing, they were more polite and respectful towards their wives as compared to those who were somewhat jaahil or not as highly educated (along with not-so-good upbringing).
Also, the husbands would be more polite to us (customer service people) as compared to their wives. I've seen many cases where I wish I could've done something to help out the wives.
Husbands also tend to be more stingy and cranky.
Like Destinee mentioned, it's mostly/mainly the wife/gf that has to make the most amount of sacrifices. Men are either incapable of changing or find it degrading to change themselves.
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I’m also looking for answers to all these questions. Maybe our culture isn’t fair. It’s a part of our culture, isn’t it?
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Chalain aap apni wife ko kaise handle kartay hain we’ll see. We’ll see how fair are you to her. 
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Mamaof3, I dont know if I'm ready for marriage, and it certainly ain't on my to-do list. But I like to think ahead, which is why sometimes I bring up these topics - to know what to look out for.
However, I dont think its too much to ask to keep the flirting to your private life. I certainly don't think that's a sign that i'm not mature for marriage. Rather, I believe those kinds of things should really remain private, since it makes it all the more special.
Destinee: Culture culture culture. Well my culture tells me that a groom should have a chicken waved over his head a couple of times before heading out for his nikkah. Culture means jack, really. You're in control of your life, not the sayings of old men who are now no more than mitti underground.
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PCG:
My thoughts exactly but the difference lies where a girl rejects to apply all that to herself and those who aren't happy with it but still apply it. I happen to be one of those sigh
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Blame the culture all you want. I'm sure most of us would agree our culture is messed.
It favours men more than women. Hence, most men do not have a problem with it, as they get to dominate and suppress their wives and they'll continue doing it no matter what.
Try rebelling and you'll have marital/relationship problems.
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True.
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Man, all of us ladies need to form some kind of league where we brainwash our sons into being gentleman, and thus eradicate this stupid problem from our culture!
Moms Against Raising Pigs.
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It is the people who make the culture, thus I propose it is you who are messed up :p
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is that a subsidairy of Dads Aganist Raising Bitches?
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No, you may be thinking of Dads against Promiscuous 14 Year Olds.
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could very well be...but something still needs to be done to raise the girl correctly so that they become bitches