A recent journal entry by one of our members has me disturbed.
How are things after marriage? Does the love-shmove behavior get shoved in the closet after a certain length of time? No really?
My parents are still in love with each other, mashallah se. Even being 50 something, they still flirt with each other 
How is life after marriage?
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OH BOY Here we go. Will respond with pertinent details in about 6 1/2hrs.
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Hi Gudia.
Its depends how ur relationship is with ur hubby, But it change i think coz the thing when you met ur before bf maybe and you fall in love with him and stuff after marriage or if ur relationship is longer is more love him.
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pcg is such a loser, first she wants couples to love each other long after marriage and then when she has a living example in front of her she is disgusted at them and why is pyaricgudia so obsessed with men even when she call's them pigs all the time.
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Muhabbat har kisi ke bas ki baat nahi !
You need to live in fantasy some times, real world can not be fantastic.
as poet says
**Mohabbat aisa Shola hai
hawa jaisi bhi chalti ho *
*Kabhi madham nahi hota...
Mohabbat aisa poda hai *
*ju tab bhi sabz rehta hai *
*jab mousam nahi hota...
Mohabbat aisa darya hai *
*Ke barish rooth bhi jai
tu pani kam nahi hota...**
Mohabbat asaan nahi hai, bohat mushkil hai
Bohat kath'in hai dagar panghat ki...
you have to tone down your 'Ana' ( self pride) to be able to keep up the healthy love factor in married life...
Mayaa mari na mun mara, mar mar gaye shareer,
*Aasha trishna na mari, keh gaye das Kabir*
Shareer : body, the physical being
Trishna : thirst, eagerness
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These are my personal un-solicited views.
Marriage is two part process.
Part I
You get married life is beautiful. You learn to respect each other. There is a lot of give and take to even things out. In my case since it was also a cross-cultural marriage so there was a lot of ironing out (even though I have lived in US since 1985, there are differences). Marriage is not just between two people families are also involved and they play a major role and it does affect marriage. My arguments with wifey usually occured before or after a family visit. SO there is a lot of sizing up going on it is a lot of fun in a way because you are learning in a way. There are no pressures generally speaking since it's only the two of you.
Part II
The kids pop in. Life changes dramatically.
Oh wait a minute the thread is for all married ladies what the hell am i doing here. Sorry. I just saw the title.
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Wonderful!
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kiski journal?
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shutup creek. i may not be a fan of men and think the vast majority of them are competent like some people, but in the end i may have to live with one. 
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glad 2 have read that umer bhai :k:] remain happy for ever man
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Bolay To?
Preetily said, but don’t forget you will always have the option of living/marrying with a woman if you want too, depending on your state of course.
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No two marriages are the same sweetheart so everyone can only tell you what their experience has been but yours could or may very well be entirely different. Nearer your time to get hitched or when you are searching i'll pm you my experience ..i'd be glad to guide someone else. It is an important change in your life and shouldn't be treated lightly. :)
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Love shmove? What is that? After marriage its honey do lists and compromises. It kind of a cold war and sometimes you win and sometimes she loses. :)
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Though I'm not married but oh well what the hell.
All the love part aside. No matter if your marriage is love or arranged I think shadi life has nothing but a long list of compromises that usually the wifey has to make and is expected to make. Of course the love stays and grows.
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^ BUT WHY???
Why does the girl have to compromise more? Why is it expected from her? What is so hard about a guy shifting himself around and making a few saccrifices?
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It's been two weeks and it's still wonderful. :D
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Come back to this thread after 3 years, and give a comparative assessment.
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^ I expect it to be even better
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But I don’t want to do it. That’s that 
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^ selfish?