would you ladies be upset of other little things reasons and have sad mood all day with your partners/ hubbies too?
to explain a little bit:
in morning - her paki digests i couldnt get from desi area made a big sad face. for me i take it lightly and can bring next day wouldnt make these less important. I couldnt go cause we had to go to a birthday party. first she wasnt too happy to go on that party, but went there later. i asked a friend to bring these on his way back cause he was there and he dropped these at my place when we were away.
after that party, got phone call from pak about some one from pak is bring some luggage for her, for some reason he cant carry the whole thing but 90% (28Kg) of it is comming. she is so upset about it and made mood and sadest face on earth that it ruined my whole sunday.
and that was enough for me to burst out and ask her why is she making issue out of so little things and making life unhappy for both of us! now cause I said it with anger, she is sad about it.
it wasnt my fault, and why it cant be taken lightly? I try my best to make things better for her.
I need a good suggestion(s) from ladies here, how to handle this. cause i guess if she keep doing this, then i may get fed up about all this.
big bunch of flowers, big box of chocolates, book nice expensive restaurant, send her a sweet little message and exlpain that you realise how insensitive you were and will never act like an idiot again!
Well I am a very moody person, so I can sort of understand whats happening with your wife. For all of the above, she had a reason to be moody/upset - and I think you would agree. But there really was no point in being upset for so long over it. I think what you should do is talk to her, and try to cheer her up. Some of us tend to be moodier than the rest. And yeah you're allowed to be fed up, but again relationships are about compromise. You probably have habits that annoy her, she has habits that annoy you. But since you're married and living together try to work things out.
and getting angry at her is not a good idea when she is upset! Trust me that will make things worse. Let her know that her being depressed or upset in turn hurts you, and I think simply show her you care. It should do wonders - more than a dinner or flowers even!
lol!!! she sounds like a spoiled brat to me. get her scrubbing the bathrooms, hauling out the garbage. she needs a good does of all-amrikkaan ree-al-ity if you ask me.
It' pieces of crappy attitudes like hers that kept me away from marriage for years... Get her a job in McDonalds. A couple of days of flipping burgers and standing eight hours on her toes will make her appreciate life a lil more.
Again is she just sad over these things or angry? If she is a little sad then I guess it's okay as long as she doesn't keep on her sour face for too long, but if she vents it out on you or gives u the cold shoulder because of such little things then thats a no-no.
FG, you are SO right! lol! i had to putmyself thru college and your post reminded me of those days...I "worked the grill".. fried the burgers and fries and ckn...cleaned the grill at the end of my shift. My hair had the smell of fries, layers of grease so thick that it took 2 or 3 shampoos to get it out and aching feet. Not enough cash to eat a nice meal,
A delayed suitcase full of goodies is SUCH a small thing.
Mama - yep... most of my friends would look forward to weekends during uni days. I would dread showing up at work 6AM saturday and sunday... did it for many years.
Man I’d be pissed if my suitcase full of goodies was gone… maybe she had soemthing in there for u and cudnt wait for u to get it ;)… N fg its not abt marriage… everyone has a diff personality, i’m sure if u knew the woman before marriage she wud have been just as moody…but i’m a spoilt brat and it wont last forever
If she is reading digests at home and upset about not getting her latest edition she probably doesn;t have much of a social life. Encourage her to pursue her interests if any and get out and about.
wah.. i wish i had time to make a big deal over such silly thing . .. :-( all i can think about is have i saved up enough for next semister or the dead line for the next assignment.
get her a job.. to cry over some silly urdu digests is utterly ridiculous!
getting little upset about small things i know is ok. but to make this as some one has passed away and not talking to me, go to room and stay in. having this kind of environment is last thing i would want to experience after comming back from office or much awaited weekend.
well if get use to it, then it will not be good either cause i will stay more away from home, come home late from work as use to do that before, hang out with friends which i have stopped, home at around 6 pm.
and i never imagined a married life like this and i wouldnt have this.
whats wrong with being easy going, taking things lightly, have fun in little things, sharing happy moments.
i think life is too short to worry about such lil things.
I have just sent an email explaining about how i feel about her being upset and sad about non issues. love and care means more than other things in life.
total luggage allowance is 30K from Pak, i think friend of mine is being very nice to bring 28K.
it should be looked as half filled rather than half empty always!
She doesnt like people to come over or going to meet other people. she only goes cause i force her to. she is new here and dont have many friends.
She has to do her couple of professional tests here to qualify to practice here, and i think i have to book these to pursue her to take these early.
I havent done it cause she may think I am forcing her to go for job afterwards. which is entirely upto her.
according to her, she has been readin these since about 10 years, if she didnt get these she feels like she is living a very low bounded life.
She's pissed that all her stuff isn't coming from Pakistan? What? No one bring us jack when they come to visit us. My dad's sister and brother come every year, and those guys bring me one small box with a necklace from Tariq Road and some cheap rings. Box is the size of my hand.
And that's it. When we want stuff, we pay our own darn ticket, fly over there, get stuff made and bring it back. We only recently discovered fed-ex.
:-|
I agree with some of the posters here. Maybe get her a job and let her see what it means to work hard for what you have.
As for her mood swings, you're doing the right thing. Just like you have to adjust and change habits, she does too.
I am quite felxible, and allow people to take freedom until the point i cant take anymore. I dont keep things hard and fast as life is not black and white.
she hasnt touched the bathrooms yet, though she has been taking care of kitchen and living room. and she has learnt to make Chapatis which i get to apperciate few days in week as when her mood is off thats a far possibility and thats why i keep pita bred standby or simply skip the meal.
made a big sad face. for me i take it lightly and can bring next day wouldnt make these less important. I couldnt go cause we had to go to a birthday party. first she wasnt too happy to go on that party, but went there later. i asked a friend to bring these on his way back cause he was there and he dropped these at my place when we were away.
