Ok now that I am all equipped to deal with the nasty stuff , thanks to all your ladies
I want to know two more things please :
1- What is this breathing technique that everyone keeps talking about? any specific youtube videos that you guys think will be helpful ?
2- Best way to time the contractions? actually you guys need to tell me all that you know about contractions .. from the last thread I know now how it can possibly feel when the contractions begin .. but usually how long before delivery can these start? and when they do start how far apart are they ?
Like, can they start two weeks before? and maybe have several hours gap between each ? then they slowly start getting more frequent and painful? is that how it works?
3- Oh and most importantly : what do husbands do during the delivery phase? other then acting all dizzy and fainting etc .. are there any tips I need to give husband .. I want him equally prepared , coz in this case he actually thinks birthing is a piece of cake So I want to let him know before hand what is expected of him while I pop the baby out :hinna: all tips are welcome
PS : I promise when/ If Allah SWA blesses me with the second child, I will not ask as many dumb questions , I will just re-read these threads to save everyone the typing hassle
lady, have you and hubby not signed up for pre-natal classes at your local hospital? you should go to those!
breathing techniques = Breathing techniques for labour | BabyCenter
my mom, who had all three of us sans epidural, credits these with her smooth delivery with my youngest brother vs. with my older bro and i. she says she forced my dad into attending the lamaze classes (Lamaze technique - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) with her and she found it incredibly helpful during labour since she was delivering alone in a foreign country (dad dropped her off at hospital and left! :smack: ah, the old days. may they remain old.). like you, she needed to know what was going to be happening so that she could prepare for it, even though this was her 3rd, but apparently the first two deliveries in pakistan were just a big fat mess. in fact, and this is a bit off-topic, but with my older brother who was a big baby, she says they told her to push before she was fully dilated and you can imagine the kind of tearing she had. shudder thank ALLAH i had my kiddo in canada!!!
not sure how much prior to delivery contractions can start since i was induced, but i know you can be dilated well before. a friend of mine was 5 cms dilated without knowing it, 4 days before giving birth. lucky girl!
husbands are there for moral support and love and to get ice chips and hold your hand and comfort you
tell him to stay above your shoulder :p, and again, find prenatal classes and both of you take some time out on the weekend to attend them. you will find them very helpful. at mine, they had the dad’s involved in changing diapers and asking questions and addressing their concerns just as much as the mom’s.
SGC , midwife kept saying I can get on to the classes in the last two months .. so i left it at that .. now this month I didnt get a place in two out of three classes and the one in which I did get a place, husband wasnt here and it was couples only ! and now I have been told the only available seats are in January classes .. and I have booked up for those but incase baby decides to arrive early , I will be totally lost ! no point taking classes after the baby has arrived !
I am gonna look up those links you mentioned .. Cant believe your mom had to go through that phase , a friend shared this happening to her too , she said she was in such immense pain she screamed so much the entire ward could hear her !!!
Ok , so birthing partner doesnt do much then :hinna: I wanted to show him a video just to prepare him, he thought i was about to torture him or something and refused to watch it !
Download one of those apps that help you time your contractions
My husband was so helpful!! He made me calm down so many times during labor .. don’t know what I’d do without him. He helped the nurse out too when the baby was coming by holding one of my numb legs lol. The nurse knows exactly what husbands need to be doing and they will put your husband to good use, don’t worry!! My husband helped me relax, spoke to me when I was losing it LOL and massaged my shoulders, back or where ever I was stiff. He also had the camera ready for when baby came out and was able to capture her first few minutes in this duniya! And of course, he cut the cord!! Who can forget that?? He still rubs it in me when ever he gets the chance. He saw her first
you know.. u can go in knowing jack and you will still deliver a baby… i didnt bother reading up on anything second time around not cuz i knew most of it from the first time… but cuz it doesnt matter what you know … u forget all of it when the pain starts. u forget how to breathe if at all.. u forget that screaming wont help at all but tire you out.. and that man stroking your leg means well and is not meant to be kicked and shouted at.
its the job of the dr or midwife to remind you of everything… and guide not only you of how to push or breathe.. but also the hsuband that he needs to spend less time fainting and more time kneading your back or getting you ice chips etc.
i cant help with counting down the contractions cuz i never did it with either kid… u just go when the pain gets unbearable, u sgtart seeing green water or just cuz its been way too long at home and things arent happening on their own.
oh and if you suddenly have this urge to poo.. you most probably will be delivering at home.. cuz u wanna get to the hospital an hour before u start to feel like that
He cut the cord:hayaa: you are one brave lady to let him do it, I wouldnt let mine come anywhere near the baby until I am sure he knows what he’s doing
husband already stumps me as he keeps going on and on and on every since Midwife suggested he might see the baby before I do !! I am already feeling so jealous If husband faints I might have a chance to see the baby first , evil much?
Khawa .. someone else told me about this poop bit as well and I feel so scared when I have to go to the loo , the first thought is oh oh could it be the baby coming and then I calm my self down that the baby cant come before all the nasty stuff coming out :hinna:
My husband was good for nothing .. lol. He actually went home to sleep because he was working all night .. came in the morning.. took me to the hospital stayed with me till the evening there. He was super exhausted. He went home to sleep when the doctor came in and said you’ve been in labor too long and we need the baby to come out now :D.. I called my husband who took two hours to get to the hospital and just stood there .. lol. I had enough doctors/residents/students there to help with anything .. Its a teaching hospital so yeah.
I strongly suggest you take classes for breathing techniques. I didn’t take it and man I would hold my breath at every contraction because it was so strong. Well it starting taking toll on my baby and the nurse put oxygen mask and kept yelling at me (yes yelling) to breath or the oxygen will get too low.
Timing contractions was easy. I got contractions for two days straight. First day they weren’t as strong and as close. Second day they got really really strong and starting getting closer and closer. I called my doctor and he said to come to his clinic.. by the time I got there I was crying out loud in pain.. yes the whole waiting area looking at me. He sent me to the hospital right away.
haha cb… i think it depends on how emotionally strong your man is…
mine was da bomb throughout.. and my first labour was 32 hours.. horrendous… i threw up, i fainted, i got an epi twice.. i had rivers flowing out of me all over the place which he managed to contain awesomely.. he was just perfect… cut the cord too…
he asked me if i was doing ok and in control now that the baby is out.. i said i felt great… he nodded and broke down.. lol.. he CRIED so MUCH hahahha…and then made a statement. that he knows jack crap bout what to do now.. he just needs to sit down for a while.. haha… good memories
Wow CB, you’re a bunch of nerves. Relax! Just remember giving birth is one of the few things that has been going on since the beginning of mankind!
If millions of other women have done it, you can do it too. I didn’t bother reading up on labor coz I thought I’ll handle it when the time comes. Reading it beforehand just causes unnecessary stress.
For contractions just remember 511. The contractions must be at least 5 mins apart, lasting for a minute and must go on for at least an hour. Every woman has a different experience. I had no Braxton hicks and was convinced I would go past my due date. I was actually 4 cm dilated at my 38 week appt and had no idea. My contractions started exactly 12 hours before I gave birth. And they were actually mild. But since they passed the 511 rule, I went to the hospital and called my doctor. Since my contractions were pretty mild, the doctor thought it was false labor but it wasn’t. I went up to 5 cm without much pain after which I asked for an epidural. After the epidural I got to 10 within just 3 hours even though the nurses thought it would take me a while. The point is every labor is different.
You can read up all you want but trust me it all goes out the window when you’re in labor. The only thing I would recommend is have your husband and mom with you for moral support, recite surahs and practice breathing exercises. The prenatal classes are great to teach you breathing exercises so try your best to attend those with your husband. Your husband is your biggest supporter at this time so please make sure he is with you at all times.
Just relax! You seem really wound up. You’ll be fine inshaAllah and when you look at your beautiful, healthy baby for the first time, you’ll realize you were worrying for no reason. It all falls beautifully into place, has been since the beginning of mankind!
lol can I just say I wont have survived the labor if my husband wasnt there? my labor started saturday evening.. he downloaded the app on his phone so I could monitor my contractions.. I was up pretty much all night long pacing in and out of the bedroom timing the contractions.. he woke up several times but I would made him go back to sleep knowing the next day might even be worse.. he woke up for fajr, we prayed (well i moaned more), and then he rubbed my back for next couple of hours, got me ready for hospital, made me breakfast and kind of force fed during my ocntractions, he was awesome in the delivery room.. he freaked out when they broke my water and it was messsy but he had no problems with PDA (HUGE thing for him optherwise) in the delivery room, stroking my hair, kissing my forehead, telling me how proud he was of me and last but not least holding my hand and just looking at me while they cut me up in the OR (how romantic- NOT)
re the breathing technique.. we took the pre natal and still I forgot all about breathing texhniques, the nurse there helped me and reminded me over and over how to breathe through a contraction and yes it IS a technique that helps with the pain… its like letting out your pain with each of your contraction.. it HELPED a lot!!!
I didnt take any breathing technique classes or anything…the nurses just helped me. I really didn’t do much other than breathe in through my nose out through the mouth every time i got a strong contraction. And i just kept thinking of my baby. Just remember not to hold ur breath when u get a contraction…humans have a natural tendency to hold their breath when we feel pain. You just have to remember not to do that.
I downloaded a contraction timer app on my phone loll. Some women get Braxton hicks waaaayyyy before labor…weeks and weeks. The difference between Braxton hicks and true labor is that Braxton’s will be very irregular, not painful and won’t get stronger. True labor contractions are very timely and consistently get stronger and closer together. It wont stop/go away when its real labor.
My husband was totally useless lol. We went to the hospital together at 11 pm and he stayed with me till 6 am…half-asleep, playing games on his laptop/phone. He was extremely tired though from work, so when my mom came he left to get some rest. But when he left i got the epi and dilated to a 10 within an hour…i had to push and 2 pushes later Ibrahim was here…my hisband got here as fast as he could but lol he was born.
tips for husband - tell him to go eat his meals at regular times, and get his naps in while you wait for the perfect dilation or whatever. or else lack of sleep + low blood sugar + sight of a baby being dropped off by the stork + all that blood + pregnant woman’s breath as she pushes = faintyfaint.
hey i didnt faint, and i got to do snipsnip on the U-cord, as well as hold and smell my baby all bloody and gooey. i just wish i had slept some more before the baby came coz you kinda wanna sit and watch it a lot afterwards.
Dude my husband was asleep and wouldn’t wake up when I was 10cm dilated. I knew something was happening and baby was coming and it was 5am so husband was behosh on the couch. Nurse was not in the room and I even screamed at him to wake up without any luck. I felt like killing him right there and then. While I was in pain he was sleeping like a baby. So I buzzed in the nurse and told her to wake up my husband right that instant. Took another few minutes for him to actually wake up, pissed me off
Awww thats the cutest thing I have read in a while
and totally shocked to read that you actually had to cut the cord.. what was the experience like? were you scared? did wifey scream when you held the scissors? what was the baby’s reaction? you are a brave heart you didnt faint
So I want to let him know before hand what is expected of him while I pop the baby out :hinna: all tips are welcome
i just wish i had slept some more before the baby came coz you kinda wanna sit and watch it a lot afterwards.
