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I didn’t mean it disrespectfully.
And what do you mean I didn’t write hypothetically? Do I have a wife I have missed 
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Thanks for clarification, I did not know that you do not have a wife.
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Do you think it is time to man up for our young man and start marrying abused battered and divorced girls rather than looking for brand new out of the wrapper kind of girl, you can end up with a pretty awesome life partner, some of these ladies will be so appreciative that they will turn your life into heaven. You might end up with a girl that under normal circumstances not give you the time of day. Why this obsession with untouched. These girls have also matured a lot in dealing with the hardships of life. I know many such cases where the life for all parties is a bliss.
I am sure there are some men who do marry abused/divorced girls. Probably not for the reasons you mentioned though. For example, pious men do so for the sake of ajar, not with the expectation of getting an eternally grateful wife but with the intention to actually take care of her and show her kindness and in turn hope that Allah will be pleased with them for their selfless act.
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Marrying someone divorced or abused and then expecting more from them is wrong way of starting a relationship. At the same time people think its easy to deal with women who had traumatic life events, actually its harder. One needs a big heart and lot of patience and salutes to those who do have the courage.
Not expecting more, the pettiness disappears your perspective changes and you focus on the important things in life, one would be a Jerk to expect more. My friend married this Kashmiri goddess, tall, fair, 5-9', long hair, she was an imported bride, married to a good-looking abusive guy. Second time around, best looking guy was not the priority, kind, gentle, caring was what she was looking for. She converted to Islam, you can sense the love as soon as you walk in their house.
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Kashmiri girl converted to Islam... to kiya pehly woh non muslim thi...?
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Not expecting more, the pettiness disappears your perspective changes and you focus on the important things in life, one would be a Jerk to expect more. My friend married this Kashmiri goddess, tall, fair, 5-9', long hair, she was an imported bride, married to a good-looking abusive guy. Second time around, best looking guy was not the priority, kind, gentle, caring was what she was looking for. She converted to Islam, you can sense the love as soon as you walk in their house.
That is what people, both men and women, should be looking for in the first place. Contrary to popular opinion, most people aren't as shallow as to place appearance above all else in the face of reason. Quite frankly, if someone is immature and superficial enough to make finding the best looking guy/girl their priority and marry someone based on that, then, quite frankly, any marital disaster that befalls them is their own doing.
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Kashmiri girl converted to Islam... to kiya pehly woh non muslim thi...?
Kashmiri Hindu, one of the most beautiful lady I have ever seen.
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Kashmir Hindu girl was imported bride and got married Pakistani living in West… 
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I am sure there are some men who do marry abused/divorced girls. Probably not for the reasons you mentioned though. For example, pious men do so for the sake of ajar, not with the expectation of getting an eternally grateful wife but with the intention to actually take care of her and show her kindness and in turn hope that Allah will be pleased with them for their selfless act.
Never read anywhere to marry for charity, there is so much talk about piety without ever backing it up with actions.
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Her first husband was hindu, he used to beat her up, a muslim co worker was the second husband.
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Her first husband was hindu, he used to beat her up, a muslim co worker was the second husband.
Was first husband Pakistani or Indian?
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Was first husband Pakistani or Indian?
Indian, he already had a white girlfriend, his family pressured him to marry girl from back home.
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Indian, he already had a white girlfriend, his family pressured him to marry girl from back home.
What was wrong in first marriage of your wife? Why was she abused? and now how is she living happy life with you? What did she learn?
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What was wrong in first marriage of your wife? Why was she abused? and now how is she living happy life with you? What did she learn?
They wanted more cash and her moms house, they used to beat her up. She came from Pakistan they kept all the cash and jewellery that she brought with her, social services and volunteers took great care of her and paid for her education at McGill, she was married again, this time the guy wanted a nanny for his kids and mom he had a Hispanic mistress. Just the maturity that comes from hardship and experiences of life make you who you are. I was a very hard guy, she was very patient with me and kind of transformed me. I think if she had not been divorced previously she would not have worked so hard at making me the best man I can be.
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Do you think it is time to man up for our young man and start marrying abused battered and divorced girls rather than looking for brand new out of the wrapper kind of girl, you can end up with a pretty awesome life partner, some of these ladies will be so appreciative that they will turn your life into heaven. .
As stated earlier, you can have a great married life with an "out of the wrapper" girl and a difficult one with an abused/divorced one due to emotional baggage and possible trust issues. It is possible to have a wonderful marriage with woman from the latter group, but I find the words "she'll be so appreciative" odd. It's almost like one thinks that such a woman will be so grateful for being "saved" by a guy aur is ehsaan k liye she will bend over backwards to please him and make his life a heaven. Not necessarily so....and it's not wise to marry anyone with the mentality k hum us pe ehsaan kar rahay hain.
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Also, Knight, you had three members (Icono, Mezghan, Shak) tell you that thinking a divorced-abused will be more appreciative is not right…that the wording is indeed condescending as Mezghan had said. But rather than admit that your wording/thought process is flawed…you instead spew even more anecdotes about couples you know or you tell us about how loved up you are by your wife. Dude, why do you keep responding like this instead of recognizing the errors in your threads/posts? 
Is Knight30 actually shawns?
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Do you think it is time to man up for our young women and start marrying abused battered and divorced guys rather than looking for brand new out of the wrapper kind of guy, you can end up with a pretty awesome life partner, some of these guys will be so appreciative that they will turn your life into heaven. You might end up with a guy that under normal circumstances not give you the time of day. Why this obsession with untouched. These guy have also matured a lot in dealing with the hardships of life. I know many such cases where the life for all parties is a bliss.
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What is this got to do with being man up?
I meant what is said in the title.
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^I see what you did there, Ethan.