Re: Time to man up!!!
I apologise for the wrong choice of words but it is a known stat here that second marriage have a higher success rate, Pakistani community is witnessing an alarming increase in divorces both here and in Pakistan, the top reasons cited by Pakistani psychologists are uncontrollable egos, material demands, unwillingness to compromise, and third party influence, In our case the egos were no existent, we had realised that love is more important than money and we fought and resisted third party influences.
She is a strong woman, CMA from McGill, fluent in French, English and Spanish she did not need the rescue, she just quit 100K job. It is her choice to love and appreciate me and you have the right to judge our love and appreciation for each other. She has never spoken a mean word to me even when I lost millions in stock market. She came up to me and said. " She will happily sleep in the street with me." On the other hand were nasty gold digger family. Interview always focused on how much money I make what car I drive and how big my house is.
Princesses are you serious, are you setting them up for imminent disaster, this world belongs to tough girls and boys. One of the favorite instructions from my kids coach is, we are going to paddle but come prepared for every thing, meaning bring your running shoes/track shoes/hiking shoes and snow and rain gear, same with life raise kids prepared for everything and any thing. These young hostesses that worked for me got up at 5.30 am, went to college, ate on the run, came to work for me 2-8pm, worked out before going home, did homework after getting home. Princesses step in this world will get squished. Read about gratitude please.
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3. Couples](http://www.yourtango.com/couples) desire to “do it right this time.” Partners in a second marriage are all marked by the same drive to really make the relationship work. This is not to say that first marriages are devoid of drive, but remarried people experience this drive on another level. Having already experienced the end of a marriage, people in second marriages develop a heightened determination to not take anything for granted. Remarried people also know too well what will happen if the marriage does not work out.4. Couples have a sense of gratitude. In addition to drive, people who are in second marriages possess a deep sense of gratitude—gratitude for a second chance and gratitude for life and love, knowing how sweet and fleeting they can be. Gratitude elevates us. In her seminal book, Codependent No More, Melody Beattie describes the transformational powers of gratitude:“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”