some of us may at some point in our lives, or even now be busy in studying or working long hours, while the spouse is at home.
this is true for young and recent couples.
the spouse could be studying and home alone while the other spoue worrks.
or the spouse could be busy working and away a lot more from home, due to that, then the tme spent away from each other will be the result, as well.
it came in observation that this is very essential to do some creative planning
to enable the couple to spend time together.
busy, educated, wrking professional MUST make the time to leave all else in the world away, and have a very good time together, as a couple, as a team
of two.
granted, the preferences of the couple to stay apart, just for studying and work sake, but something does not seem right about that.
any ideas on the issue, or telling life anecdotes that will point to the of the necessity of making the time to be with the spouse?
how funny— i home alone right now since my husband’s on call tonight, and as a result spending an inordinate amount of time on gupshup:halo:
yup you are right, spending time together is very important, especially in the early years of marriage and both couples have to learn to adjust their schedules and priorites to give time to each other
mash-Allah, asimaan.
that is nice. in certain professions, especially medicine and education, long work hours are always there.
any profession can be hard, blue or white collar.
but, i am glad that you know this that for knowing each other, spending good time together is very essential.
the good thing is that gs is safe, and i think we all should be thank fl for that.
I dont think it takes 'creative' planning, its very simple, u match schedules, see what time both will be home, and what time one person will be alone etc, and plan accordingly.
you got it wrong. but that is alright. :>
i meant to say by creative as in implying, that time must have to be made. and priorities could be shifted and routined in ways that the personal interrelationship between the couple could become better.
best,
Dushwari
I dont think it takes 'creative' planning, its very simple, u match schedules, see what time both will be home, and what time one person will be alone etc, and plan accordingly.
you got it wrong. but that is alright. :>
i meant to say by creative as in implying, that time must have to be made. and priorities could be shifted and routined in ways that the personal interrelationship between the couple could become better.
best,
Dushwari
No dushwari, I did not get it wrong. Saying it takes creativity makes it sounds like some bigger beast than it is, its simply a matter of scheduling and prioritizing.
Its just as important...if not more so...to be able to spend time together in later years of marriage when everything is taken for granted and danger of "being comfortable" is much higher.
On a lighter note...hey you get full control of the remote :)
wohee tow meye khe raheen hoon, mager, i guess, meira kheneye ka tareeka different heye. Fraudia bhai. :>
i know you have first hand experience. you can say it much clearer.
best,
Dushwari
No dushwari, I did not get it wrong. Saying it takes creativity makes it sounds like some bigger beast than it is, its simply a matter of scheduling and prioritizing.
i agree, Aly_sam. you're absolutely right. the problem is that whenever someone sees glaring honesty, he cannot handle that, sadly, neither ealier before marriage nor after it or after after it.
such men have no peace in their lives as they are puppets of confusion and pleasing uncalled for demanding families or do not in their own persons, know how to be without hurting others whom they make their support.
best,
Dushwari
Its just as important...if not more so...to be able to spend time together in later years of marriage when everything is taken for granted and danger of "being comfortable" is much higher.
On a lighter note...hey you get full control of the remote :)
I can tell you are not married. Three months into marriage and you will be planning activities to get some time off from the spouse. Yeah and it feels like getting a conjugal visit after being put in for life.
bigdaddy,
let alone the conjugal part, you have to see it as a friend trying to find out all about you as your life partner and given that the effort put forth in making the time to get to know the spouse, ought to be important and sacred to you personally.
bigdaddy, this mindset of which you speak, is full of repugnance for anyone who does mean to form a good relationship.
you dont approach someone as intimate as your life partner with this kind of intent or baeddilee as in dejectedness, if you will.
date nights! the hubs works really late, 6, sometimes 7, days a week since he has his own bidness and it takes up a huge amount of work to get it off the ground; i'm working two jobs over the holidays just so i have something to do other than sit around at home waiting for him to come home... so every friday, we have a date night. we purposefully don't schedule any other commitments on friday evenings and we make it a point to go out and have dinner or see a movie or just stay home and spend time together. works like a charm! like fraudia said, its a question of scheduling. in our case, having one fixed day in the week works really well because its consistent and we can plan everything else around it.
