Time running out to get married?

[StrangeOne]

Re: Time running out to get married?

@Paheli00

This is a HUGE flaw in desi thinking and lifestyle IMO. Why are people retiring in their 60’s and needing support from their kids?! My own FIL is 72 and MIL 61. Both still independent and have plenty of energy to play with my 7 year old niece. They live on their own, eat healthy, stay physical active, and manage to take 2-3 international vacations on their own each year. My own parents are in their early 60’s, dad has no plans to stop working until he dies, are healthy, and currently do not need any support from me. I have several full-time attorneys at my firm who are well into their 60’s/70’s and manage to live a very active lifestyle. At school I had a professor who was 88 when he stopped teaching. The reason he stopped teaching is b/c one day in the middle of class he had a bad stroke and ended up dying a week later. But at the skeletal age of 88, he still manage to stay active, healthy, working etc…actually teaching law school classes. The list goes on and on.

Instead of telling people to marry early etc…and having this expectation that they’ll be retiring/helpless during their 60’s…why is not there more push for people to stay active and be healthy? Numerous studies have shown the benefits of staying active (physically AND mentally) when it comes to old age. Why aren’t we pushing people to plan on staying active until they die instead of expecting them to become helpless in their 60’s?

And I think people get depressed when you have nothing to do. A lot of my dad’s older friends are retiring from govt jobs and their health just declines like crazy. I think the same happens to women when their kids leave the nest. When your whole self worth and identity revolves around being married, having kids or being a provider it messes up your entire reason for being. Which is also why desi people need to back off judging unmarried people. It’s not the end of the world. No, seriously it isn’t.