Time for relationship...

[Sara516]

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@Furqan

*girl with no social activities, who just sits at home and cooks and waits for her husband to come home! *

^ That’s what I would do

Blame my desi upbringing

[parissenoor]

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@Blitzkrieg

Don’t worry, it is already becoming that!

Oh and I thought you were a muslim?

yes i am muslim:rolleyes:…muslims are not supposed to be nuns all their lives…the are advised to marry as soon as possible…so finding a future spouse is very necessary:D

[parissenoor]

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@Sara516

^ That’s what I would do

Blame my desi upbringing

i would also not work due to the unavoidable male contacts at work:D…which are very not tolerated in conservative muslim families like the one of my future spouse:D

but we women can have social activities with other females:blush:: sewing clubs, baby sitting clubs, cooking clubs:blush:…why not making a housewife association:cb:?

[Furqan]

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@parissenoor

housewife association:cb:?

[Blitzkrieg]

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@parissenoor

yes i am muslim:rolleyes:…muslims are not supposed to be nuns all their lives…the are advised to marry as soon as possible…so finding a future spouse is very necessary:D

^ How does Islam concile with your need of a bf as you said in your previous post?

[parissenoor]

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@Blitzkrieg

^ How does Islam concile with your need of a bf as you said in your previous post?

well we will marry as soon as he can afford it:D

btw we are at a long distance, that means no contacts;)

[Blitzkrieg]

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@parissenoor

well we will marry as soon as he can afford it:D

btw we are at a long distance, that means no contacts;)

French!

[parissenoor]

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@Blitzkrieg

French!

what’s the problem with french people:o??
we have feelings too

[Pinnacle]

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@amana

Calling each other constantly throughout the day seems a bit extreme. Some women like that, though. Maybe she is bored at home, or doesn't have anyone else to talk to, and so she clings a bit too much to the husband?

Seriously, it depends on what level of communication the couple is comfortable with. My dh is always in the habit of calling me when he leaves the office (btw guys this is a good habit to get into, and guarantees{hopefully} that you won't come home to find the missus in the clothes she cleaned the bathroom in).

Time alone is important though, even though we've been married for many years now (almost 15!), we still go out on a date at least twice a month, once a week if we're lucky. We've been doing this since we were first married. We also take a weekend away without the kids once a year.

I think its important to think of your husband/wife as a person in their own right, and not just as your spouse, a mother/father, etc. When we have date night we don't talk about the kids, family, or household related issues, we just try to have a good time :)

amana, i love ur posts!!!
ur advice really makes sense..... i think now i know who to turn to for advice in future:D

[system]

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@amana

Calling each other constantly throughout the day seems a bit extreme. Some women like that, though. Maybe she is bored at home, or doesn’t have anyone else to talk to, and so she clings a bit too much to the husband?

Seriously, it depends on what level of communication the couple is comfortable with. My dh is always in the habit of calling me when he leaves the office (btw guys this is a good habit to get into, and guarantees{hopefully} that you won’t come home to find the missus in the clothes she cleaned the bathroom in).

Time alone is important though, even though we’ve been married for many years now (almost 15!), we still go out on a date at least twice a month, once a week if we’re lucky. We’ve been doing this since we were first married. We also take a weekend away without the kids once a year.

I think its important to think of your husband/wife as a person in their own right, and not just as your spouse, a mother/father, etc. When we have date night we don’t talk about the kids, family, or household related issues, we just try to have a good time

Masha’allah!

Love the way you have put everything together :k:

[amana]

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It hasn't always been a bed of roses - and it won't be - but al-hum-du-li-Allah we have had a happy marriage and always managed to get through the rough spots.

At my bridal shower my grandma told me that being committed to having a good marriage is a conscious choice you make every day of your life, not just once. It's probably the best marital advice I've ever received.

[PaRi_Si]

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^ wonderful.....thank you for passin it on. :)

[fghd]

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@amana

At my bridal shower my grandma told me that being committed to having a good marriage is a conscious choice you make every day of your life, not just once. It’s probably the best marital advice I’ve ever received.

Is that for just wife or both husband and wife?

[Pinnacle]

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good point emm...... we gals seem to be doing all da hard work!

[Blitzkrieg]

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@parissenoor

what’s the problem with french people:o??
we have feelings too

bf’s !!!

[twin_born]

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relationship works well when one is good @ taking orders.
Let ur partner dominate you.
Let him/her have the lead, even if want to boss around @ times.Time passes by so fast and unnoticed.Peopel com in ur life and exit even faster,
So never miss the oppostunity to tell these ppl what and how much they mean to u.Try to know the worth of compainionship before the hour of separation.
Fate does intervene, chalks out your destinies, but give chances to select ur own ways. Donot choke ur love with ur hands.

Relationships of all kind, espically lob b\w a man and a women , is lik sand held in ur hand. If held loosely and carefully , the sand remains where it is.
But if held tightly with closed hands and squeezed to hold on more tightly,it trickles through ur fingers.U may hold onto soem of it,but most will spilled. Therefore, hold on to ur relationships with utmost care, respect and freedom.It is likely tht they will intact.

In the end , i just would like say tht,
**Nature reflects tht the most WORTHy things are the most sensitive existing.

** Kysaaaa:balley:

[Muzna]

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It is unhealthy to be so focussed on one thing/person.
Husband and wife both need to have their own sets of interests and activities. If either one is not living a balanced life, it can turn the entire relationship topsy turvy.

I feel that one of the reasons why there is so much gossip and back-biting in our community is because women have nothing else to do except cook dinner and sit at home all day long.

muzna ducks in anticipation of anday and tamatar

[parissenoor]

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@Muzna

It is unhealthy to be so focussed on one thing/person.
H**usband and wife both need to have their own sets of interests and activities. If either one is not living a balanced life, it can turn the entire relationship topsy turvy.
**
I feel that one of the reasons why there is so much gossip and back-biting in our community is because women have nothing else to do except cook dinner and sit at home all day long.

muzna ducks in anticipation of anday and tamatar