Re: Threatening divorce
No, I prefer to apologize because I come from a family of mostly sons/boys and have seen the other side of the coin. I have seen manipulative women and men that went far beyond their obligation to "make it better".
But this does not mean that all men are angels. In fact, the men in my life are mostly exceptions to the rule; they do not fly off the handle and issue threats and/or ultimatums at the drop of a hat.
What it does mean is that the norm is probably the kind of man that will use whatever is at his disposal to "bring the woman in line." And if this means threatening her with the "d word" then so be it.
I don't think that most men are pigs and I certainly don't believe that they want to hurt their wives. But I also don't believe that most men define "hurt" in the same way as most women do.
I am not suggesting that you are an idiot Kimble, not in the least. By the same token neither am I. It is obviously understood that no reasonable, self-respecting man would opt for divorce without being at the end of his rope. The question, I believe, is how long is the rope?