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^ because he wants to benefit a girl and her family!!!
do it Lahori!! change a girl's life for the better!
why would you go after someone who is specifically poor? What is wrong with middle class or upper class girls? They're not good enough for ya? They think too much, don't they?
if middle/upper class girls think like you then yes definitely not interested. j/k
i think it's cuz it's always wanted to marry a poor girl to do something good in life.
so if there is one really good rich/middle class girl and 1 really good poor girl (both have good character, heart, etc) i'll go for the poor. plus i think i'll click more with a poor girl (village girl), i don't know why but that's my feelings right now. things never go according to my plans so i don't know what will happen.
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i see. so marriage is gonna be an act of charity for you.
How kind.
i see. so marriage is gonna be an act of charity for you.
How kind.
Exactly. The poor girl might see the marriage as charity even if you try to convince her otherwise. She might be compelled to do whatever you say, just to pay you back, until she eventually gets tired/frustrated in the marriage.
Exactly. The poor girl might see the marriage as charity even if you try to convince her otherwise. She might be compelled to do whatever you say, just to pay you back, until she eventually gets tired/frustrated in the marriage.
so, now your guys making it sound like it's a bad thing. hmmm
so, now your guys making it sound like it's a bad thing. hmmm
It's not a bad thing. Just don't prefer her over the upper/middle class girl (when both have good hearts) because she's poor. You don't want to make it seem like you took pity on her. Marry her because you're compatible with her and can see yourself spending the rest of your life with her, regardless of her financial background.
Exactly. The poor girl might see the marriage as charity even if you try to convince her otherwise. She might be compelled to do whatever you say, just to pay you back, until she eventually gets tired/frustrated in the marriage.
It's noble to want to give a poor girl a better life. But...it shouldn't be done in a way as if you're being "beneveloent"....or looking down upon her and her family. Nobody wants to be pitied.
Not saying this would happen....but just throwing out some possible situations. The wealthier family could look down on her and her family.......they may not blatantly say it........but their body language/interactions could indirectly reflect this sentiment. The less wealthier family might feel insecure and self-conscious about their status. Even a truly sincere and kind gesture from the wealthy family.....may be perceived as an insult "neecha dikhana" by the less wealthy family. What if the less wealthy family....tries to take "advantage" of the wealthier one....like using the other for various gains? What if the wealthy family thinks that they can easily control or manipulate the poor, naive, lil village girl (then again she may not be naive or innocent)?
Desi families of the same socioeconomic class can be fraught with drama. And granted that you may find a girl of the SAME background as you...to be compatible. But keep in mind......that a greater disparity between the socioeconomic classes can come with unique/greater obstacles to overcome.
I'm not saying that it can't work. While I've heard that similar backgrounds are better for a marriage........I understand that there are exceptions to the generalization. I do think, that REAL LIFE is not as SIMPLE as you've made your question out to be, Lahori. Compatibility is essential and complicated and can include other factors besides being okay looking and having good character.
Exactly. The poor girl might see the marriage as charity even if you try to convince her otherwise. She might be compelled to do whatever you say, just to pay you back, until she eventually gets tired/frustrated in the marriage.
LOVE will take care of those things
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Pfft hell no. Why would I do that. I am gonna marry a Bhutto. Then become Prime Minister and then have her killed...this sounds vaguely familiar.
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^benazir bhutto wasn't a village girl! I read her autobiography. She was really rich.
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sigh Reread my post....
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lol! sorry.
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As always the ladies misread everything I say. Its like:
"Oh CM posted. He is gonna be a dick so lets just go attack him right away anyway" :p
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and i dont get this sawab business. For some reason, that just doesnt gel with me.... u only want to do this so at the end u get sawab? not because u actually want to marry someone for them...? hmmm
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^ CM ,when you say so many stupid things, it becomes a reflex after a while, and people accidentally overlook the 1 makes-sense thing you say.
and i dont get this sawab business. For some reason, that just doesnt gel with me.... u only want to do this so at the end u get sawab? not because u actually want to marry someone for them...? hmmm
u should do everything for Allah and Allah only.
guys what are your thoughts on marrying a really poor girl from back home? pros and cons
would you marry a real poor guy/girl? why, why not?
problem is not marrying a really "poor" girl.
The problem is cultural/society/enviornmental difference.
Imagine a situation, you are in a fine rest. and have three forks for different types of food, on the other hand she has her hand for every thing, quite embarrassing..
& ..
dude, you are a privileged person, she is not. Her grownup environment is total different then compares to yours - it will be very hard for you to navigate her family & yours being with her.
Their are others way to help too, if you want sawab - don't just make hell your life and her too.
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Poverty does not make anyone a better person. Poor can be evil and rich can be virtuous.
lets not generalize… i have one similar example in my family, the girl who is from poor family and no very educated and OMG she is such a headache, dun know about basic ethics and is so much laraaki:snooty:
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