guys what are your thoughts on marrying a really poor girl from back home?
pros and cons
would you marry a real poor guy/girl? why, why not?
wealth doesn't have anything to do with what kind of a person someone is... so how can i answer this question.. ?
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pros;
she'll listen to every word you say, do everything you ask.
cons;
no father-in-law factories u can take over...
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Marry who you want. Why is it such a big deal if she/he is poor, fat, langra/langri, dark, gori, bbcd, abcd, xyz or any other letter of the alphabet for that matter.
Consider what makes you happy and those who you love.
pros; she'll listen to every word you say, do everything you ask.
cons; no father-in-law factories u can take over...
looooooooooolllllllllllll..............
wealth doesn't have anything to do with what kind of a person someone is... so how can i answer this question.. ?
true, yet most women on this board are running after guys with money or capable of earning huge salaries in future
i meant in general, like opinions on marrying a pendo, uneducated person etc
When i said poor, i meant below poverty line...
well being poor doesn't necessarily mean one is uneducated
anyway... I wouldn't marry an uneducated person.. Education, to me, is the most important thing!
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hey, marry someone who you can live with...
or if you really want to marry a poor uneducated girl, think of it like this; you marry her and give her an education, take care of her poor family's basic needs. time for sawaab collection if you ask me. big time.
hey, marry someone who you can live with...
or if you really want to marry a poor uneducated girl, think of it like this; you marry her and give her an education, take care of her poor family's basic needs. time for sawaab collection if you ask me. big time.
you know that's what i want to do (for sawaab purposes) . Marry someone real poor as long as she has good character, decent looks.
but my family is putting doubts in my mind.. marrying a poor girl isn't a wise decision..
she would be greedy, put more her family needs before yours etc
also thinking about marrying a girl from a village, a lot of them are simply and i love simplicity, again people are putting doubts. You won't click with her etc
anyone here married a village girl?
well being poor doesn't necessarily mean one is uneducated
anyway... I wouldn't marry an uneducated person.. Education, to me, is the most important thing!
more than character?
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You are probably influenced by women here who talk about their preferred choice of men that are mostly rich and highly educated, and say the rest are trash.
But logically thinking, women looking for men with good financial status makes more sense as compared to men looking for same.
The reason is obvious: its the woman who has to leave her house and move into man's house and the man is supposed to provide for her needs.
So a man marrying a poor, educated and compatible woman shouldn't be an issue.
you know that's what i want to do (for sawaab purposes) . Marry someone real poor as long as she has good character, decent looks. but my family is putting doubts in my mind.. marrying a poor girl isn't a wise decision.. she would be greedy, put more her family needs before yours etc
also thinking about marrying a girl from a village, a lot of them are simply and i love simplicity, again people are putting doubts. You won't click with her etc
anyone here married a village girl?
There's a great chance of her becoming greedy, not because all poor people are greedy.. but because money will be a new experience for her. She will try to use it as much as possible ( an opportunity she didnt have growing up).. and as we all know, we get carried away with money.. since u love simplicity, this situation might not be as simple as u predicted..
compatibility is very important... and it all depends on what kind of a person you are.. will u b able to tolerate her different world.. how easy will it be for u to change her according to the people you meet, your basic standards.. because below peverty line means that shes probably not educated..
its very nice of u to think of the sawab u will get, no doubts mashallah..
but this is a life time commitment, you have to be careful... if sawab is the main reason than there r lots of other ways to do that.. help poor girls get married in pakistan, help poor children, pay for their education etc.
anyhow, good luck. :)
You are probably influenced by women here who talk about their preferred choice of men that are mostly rich and highly educated, and say the rest are trash.
But logically thinking, women looking for men with good financial status makes more sense as compared to men looking for same. ** The reason is obvious: its the woman who has to leave her house and move into man's house and the man is supposed to provide for her needs.
So a man marrying a poor, educated and compatible woman shouldn't be an issue**.
Yes.
Nothing wrong with marrying a poor woman, unless the dude thinks that he is doing a major favor for her and she will be ever so thankful to be taken out of poverty that she wlil worship the ground he walks on. (dudes like that get the evil village-ladies :))
Im sure there are some dudes like that.
There's a great chance of her becoming greedy, not because all poor people are greedy.. but because money will be a new experience for her. She will try to use it as much as possible ( an opportunity she didnt have growing up).. and as we all know, we get carried away with money.. since u love simplicity, this situation might not be as simple as u predicted..
That's an ignorant statement to make.
There's a great chance of her becoming greedy, not because all poor people are greedy.. but because money will be a new experience for her. She will try to use it as much as possible ( an opportunity she didnt have growing up).. and as we all know, we get carried away with money.. since u love simplicity, this situation might not be as simple as u predicted..
I agree with Sarah, that is a very ignorant generalization to make.
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hmm I wouldnt call it an ignorant statement. Its one side of the coin, a huge possibility. He should consider all posibilities before making the biggest decision of his life.
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^ Maybe because she's a poor person she'll appreciate the value of money, instead of wasiting it on junk, like many of us do. I know when we're compared to our parents...my parents are more frugal then and appreciate things more the I do, becasue they didn't have them when they were younger...Like they'll cover up new things so that it last longer, or be extra careful about not wasting food and such.like when I complain about something, my mom's is always shocked how I can complain about it, and should be grateful about it, because she didnt have that luxury when she was growing up.
So maybe he is better off with village girl then a city girl in that respect.... and that's a huge possiblity you know.
Just telling you the other side of the coin.
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^ You're absolutely right. No doubts. And now he knows both sides... :)
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:)
^ Maybe because she's a poor person she'll appreciate the value of money, instead of wasiting it on junk, like many of us do. I know when we're compared to our parents...my parents are more frugal then and appreciate things more the I do, becasue they didn't have them when they were younger...Like they'll cover up new things so that it last longer, or be extra careful about not wasting food and such.like when I complain about something, my mom's is always shocked how I can complain about it, and should be grateful about it, because she didnt have that luxury when she was growing up.
So maybe he is better off with village girl then a city girl in that respect.... and that's a huge possiblity you know.
Just telling you the other side of the coin.
good post. I don't want a girl who isn't happy with my BMW b/c she desires to travel in Bentley. I want a girl who tells me not to spent money on Bentley but rather help someone or doesn't care if it's ford or bmw etc. Isn't so much into showing off like people i have seen/met in Lahore
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why would you go after someone who is specifically poor? What is wrong with middle class or upper class girls? They're not good enough for ya? They think too much, don't they?