how do u get so frank so quickly?
i can understand if its love but i see even in arrange marriages, the couple is so frank and comfortable with each other than it makes me wonder. Hmm, so wat’s the story? :p.
how frank are you with each other?
can u discuss anything and everything with yr fiance?
how long did it took for u to get that comfort level?
r u comfortable being that frank with each other infront of other people too?
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frank.frank.frankkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk.
barey franky hain dono
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Theeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek hai!!!
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Very good questions ZK. My friends in Pakistan say the engagement period involves much interaction between the girl and guy these days even in arranged settings and things have changed a lot in the past few decades in Pakistan unlike our parents' time when engaged couples were not even allowed to meet once let alone being in contact communication and regularly seeing each other.
Interaction in the engagement period is good. But this can also lead to complications and then parents need to interfere and have things resolved between the couple otherwise the rishta is broken. Being frank usually involves taking risks about the tolerance levels of fiance/ fiancee before knowing the person well. Thus the couple should be careful in interacting with each other.
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Well i dnt say dnt interact but the level of interaction nowadays is quite shocking. imagine nt knowing the guy/girl for more than few weeks and you are already discussing how many kids ur gonna have 
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really
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I know. This is very ajeeeb. Discussing such things after nikah is understandable. But after engagement, man, these people must have guts to discuss everything with each other. What will happen to sharmila type like us? 
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hahaha, our fiance wl come on GS and complain how they got engaged to “backward” girls and want a way out 
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Waqai yaar… yehi hoga
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Such a disaster this engagement period. Firstly,its been going on for 1.5 years and I spoke to him for the first time just a month ago (his family says he's shy...but he's 35!!!! how shy could he be?). He called me weekly then and replied to my texts immediately and my emails too.We had just been talking about the weather and petrol prices and so on and now all of a sudden, complete silence! I haven't done anything wrong and neither have my parents....his family's the same way, verrrrrrry laid back...no dinners,no regular phone calls...no nothing. half the time I'm left wondering if he'll even show up at the wedding :(
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You have been engaged for this long and only talked to him a month ago? Kinda strange.
1) Why such a long engagement? I mean what is the wedding on hold for?
2) Why dont yr parents take an initative, invite them over for lunch/dinner?
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^ interaction between the families is very important in the arranged engagement. This shows their continued interest in each other. If both the families are not able to get along during the engagement period, how can they expect everything to be ok after the marriage? Love marriage is a different case since the girl and guy take on the driving seat and can ensure things proceed well.
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If you know the guy beforehand, not a lot changes. We used to share poop and fart jokes then, we still do now.
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we are very frank and comfortable with each other (obviously within limits)