ok this may sound childish and silly, but when i was in pak, got married etc…anyway on my last day , my in laws never bothered to take me out or have a nice meal or anything..with me…however now my hubby is coming . they took him out and all on his last night there…i know maybe its small. but it hurts a bit…i cant complain to hubby. sounds silly. but i feel hurt abit that their son is imp enuff but im not…
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Nadz, please don't expect your inlaws to treat you how they would treat their son. Just like how you would never treat your inlaws exactly how you treat your parents. With a few exceptions, not all inlaws would do as much for their DILs as they would for their sons. I think you should stop with your expectations from them. You have your parents mA, and Im sure they do more than alot for you.. just be grateful for that instead of why your inlaws didn't do this or that.
I ran into a good friend of mine last night who got married recently into a nice family, and while talking about living closer to the inlaws, she said to me, sorry to be blunt but your inlaws can never be like your own parents/family. So it's pointless to have expectations because there will always be disappointments to follow and you will never be happy.
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Oh come on nadz. Obviously their son is more important to them, you silly billy :) he's their SON. Get over it. Where do your parents live?
P.S. I'm sure your MIL cried at the airport too while seeing him off. Obviously she didn't cry while seeing you off.
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Well you were going back to the country you came from whereas the son is stepping onto an airplane for the first time, so let them celebrate. I would say you and your family should receive him at the airport with flower garlands, video cameras, decked out minibus, and a parade band. Show him how people welcome in the UK.
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^ LOL. Now that I gotta see
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yes but cmon, i dnt expect tears but a meal wouldve atleast made me feel important enough. she was quiet and didnt even talk to me properly. i know i shudnt expect, but i know my own mum and dad would have doted on him had it been his last day..
and its not the first time hes getting on plane, its his 3rd time, to come here.
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while you may feel slighted this is exactly the kind of comparison that one needs to curb.....
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**If you are gonna obsess about EVERY , TINY , MINISCULE , DETAIL like this .......then God Help You ! **
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Okay, they neglected you. But what can you do about it? In the end are they generally good and kind to you? Do you have a loving and caring husband? Is it worth harping on this?
You should probably write a letter to them asking for a written explanation of this horrendous act.
Nadz, this is the beginning of your life and lemme tell ya, this ain’t nothing OK. In order to face a real world, you need to become stronger and more mature. Trust me, it isn’t that hard.
You can do it 
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I must state that I feel SO SORRY for men now. Tsk tsk, bechare!
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^ LOL
Haaye haaye...hamaara bhi koi ghum-khwaar paida hua.
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Girl your brain works over time.
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wow... that's pretty awful. sounds like genuine grounds for a good ol' fight...
if I were you, I wouldn't discuss this with your husband... instead, I'd directly ring your mother-in-law and let her have it. tell her exactly how you feel... tell her to clean up her act or you will do it for her...
good luck. do tell us how it goes. :)
**If you are gonna obsess about EVERY , TINY , MINISCULE , DETAIL like this .......then God Help You ! **
What she said....
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Nadz, at this rate you're gonna be crying a lot during ur marriage!!
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hmmmmmmmmmmm
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Nadz, if I were you I'd ask my parents NOT to give him any special treatments just to make things even. ;)
Nadz, please don't expect your inlaws to treat you how they would treat their son. Just like how you would never treat your inlaws exactly how you treat your parents. With a few exceptions, not all inlaws would do as much for their DILs as they would for their sons. I think you should stop with your expectations from them. You have your parents mA, and Im sure they do more than alot for you.. just be grateful for that instead of why your inlaws didn't do this or that.
I ran into a good friend of mine last night who got married recently into a nice family, and while talking about living closer to the inlaws, she said to me, sorry to be blunt but your inlaws can never be like your own parents/family. So it's pointless to have expectations because there will always be disappointments to follow and you will never be happy.
I think the best answer of your Thread Naz....
and please dont think like this try to ignore such things then you will see life will be very easy for you. After marriage we have to bear a lot of things which we dont like.