writing won't help it will only make things worse but so many people are suggesting it so I may sound odd to all but I can assure that it will only give negative result.
I was the one who brought up writing... I saw it on Oprah I think. The point of it is communication. If you cannot talk directly, then write everything down, it's better than keeping all feelings inside. But don't blame the other spouse, instead just write whatever you're feeling at the moment... hurt, angry, pain, etc. Then you sit down and discuss the problems causing the emotions.
The risk of it is if the husband has a tendency to bring up past issues, then he could save that letter and throw it in her face in the future.
Re: This marriage is a punishment
You have good intentions soundarya i didn't mean to offend you i was just giving my opinion!
But I doubt her if her husband would take it lightly since he has the habit of bringing up dead and buried issues and throwing them at her face then I think that a written document will just give him something new to give tanay to her. I don't think he will realize her intentions behind it he will take it as an insult .
Again I may be completely wrong but I can relate to her tension right now and I can tell you that most of the real man out there don't have the habit of bringing up the past its a very womanish thing to do so I highly doubt if a written document can work on such a man.
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Most important, DO NOT LOOSE YOUR COOL!! If you get hysterical, they will use it against you. I was also gonna suggest that you just go on a vacation without him AFTER TALKING TO HIM IF HE DOESN'T AGREE WITH YOU OR UNDERSTAND YOU, with your kids, and tell him, either he stop being an @$$ or you'll divorce him. That kind of stuff is not right to do. I would smack my fiancé he did that after we were married.
You have good intentions soundarya i didn't mean to offend you i was just giving my opinion!
But I doubt her if her husband would take it lightly since he has the habit of bringing up dead and buried issues and throwing them at her face then I think that a written document will just give him something new to give tanay to her. I don't think he will realize her intentions behind it he will take it as an insult .
Again I may be completely wrong but I can relate to her tension right now and I can tell you that most of the real man out there don't have the habit of bringing up the past its a very womanish thing to do so I highly doubt if a written document can work on such a man.
Agreed. Talking is the best way to go. Unless you want him to walk all over you, and most likely have his mom badmouth you to him. T-A-L-K!!!!
oh no, no offense at all 
I was just clarifying the reason why it is encouraged. But I also agree that writing all of the feelings, even if it does work temporarily, it can be risky in the future if the guy keeps the letter or throws it in her face when they have a problem again.