This is my relationship with my in laws, is this normal?

[Reha]

Re: This is my relationship with my in laws, is this normal?

@crazyfool

Ive been engaged for 2.5 years, ive known my inlaws for more than 3 years. They really love daughters, however didnt have one so adopted one.
My MIL treats me like her daughter.. theres no formality there. ( in my sisters case her mil loves her but when she goes theres a formality like her MIL makes loads of food and all like you do in case of any guest? all that is absent in my case. she makes food but doesnt serve like guests)

Now the thing thats bothering me is, she just got back from america and her daughters green card got cancelled but she had to go back in emergency for a week after spending only 4 days here.. so she asked me to come whenever possible to see the daughter (shes only 6) and help her with arts stuff like making cards and all.
and as she was here for 4 days she couldnt unpack her bags and the weather changed all of a sudden.. so she asked me to unpack the bags, to put sweaters in one and so on.. obviously with the maids help..

does this attitude show that she takes me as a family or is she making me do her work in return for the expensive gifts?
she makes her sons do the work too, whatever there is but they cant handle clothes..

note: shes really nice with me, always caring for me.. like my feet are small so she got tons of shoes as she knew she wont be goin to america and i would need a years stock.. get it? i like make up and she got me nars and mac stuff.. so im lost here?

What the…? What is this, the twilight zone?

You’re lost? I am lost.

I am lost because I don’t understand how girls like you end up with amazing MILs. You have a problem being trusted and being treated as family yet she still gives you presents and treats you like her own? And gets you branded gifts instead of dollar store junk and re-gifted things? What is going ON here?!

You would prefer being looked after and made to feel a guest…some sort of red carpet treatment. There’s no room for your ego here so please kill it. No one wants to be married to a self-proclaimed princess. You’re only engaged…don’t be in such a rush to be single again.

I hope you’re not one of those girls who messes things up with her inlaws and then comes back on this forum to open up a thread wondering why her MIL doesn’t like her.