Sometimes there are things that you do to others and don’t really feel stupid/sorry at that time but then later you realize that you really went overboard and could’ve handled the situation differently. There are probably more, but I still remember 3 things as if they happened yesterday.
When I was in high school in Pakistan, I had a friend named Zubair Siddiqui and we were very good friends. For some stupid reason that I don’t even remember now, we had an argument and we stopped talking to each other. Then I came to the US but felt bad. I thought I would go apologize when I visit Pakistan. So I went to his house when I went back to Pakistan but I couldn’t find him there as his family had moved to Karachi.
I used to work at a store and we were 3-4 guys of same age and customers simply loved us because we knew how to process anything and we were quick. Then this old lady was hired who wasn’t used to working because she was rich all her life and never needed to work. Then circumstances changed and she had to work for a living. She was slow and customers used to get irritated because she took a long time to process requests. I used to get mad at her and pressure her to do things fast. She eventually couldn’t get up to speed and left work. She wasn’t upset with me or anything, but I could’ve handled it differently.
Back in the university days, I was organizing a fashion show to represent Pakistan and this friend (female) and her sister were to perform in the show. They had a hard time coming to the meetings etc. and being punctual for the rehearsals because of their jobs. These 2 stupid twins used to sweetly fill up my ears that how these girls don’t really care about anything and I used to get mad at those sisters. They took so much pressure from me that they couldn’t handle it and backed out. I could’ve handled that situation differently as well.
Just putting these thoughts down. :hinna: I really think I should blog this but let’s see how this thread goes. Feel free to share things that you could’ve done differently and are still sorry for those.
the first good thing you have done, is that you hav 'realized' that you were wrong.
ask pardon from Allah swt, you will feel that he hears :>& then dont let anyone else do the same, you will be fine.
I realized it soon after I made these mistakes but before I could apologize. Now I doubt if I'll ever meet Zubair and I know I won't see those two sisters and that old lady as I've moved out of town.
Because of the relationship I have with my parents, I don’t openly say (flat out) that I love them but I prove with my actions. I know I am going to regret it when they are no longer alive. I have tried many times but I just couldn’t say “I love you” no matter how much I tried.
^ not everyone is able to say it shikra. Sometimes actions speak louder then words....so be sure to show them how much you love them before it's too late.
I wish I had never accepted a random guy’s invitation on facebook. This lead to so many problems. He turned out to be a crazy stalker
I wish I didn’t loose BKG as a friend I still don’t know where I went wrong because people who read the conversation say I acted like a mature person and did the right thing. I’m still gonna accept it as my mistake
I wish I had listened to my doctors and did what they asked me to do. Just because of my own carelessness I had to go through 11 months of hell Not only I suffered parents, grand mother and khalas went through a tough time too
Other than these I can’t think of any and the ones I can think of I’ve already apologised to those people
^ not everyone is able to say it shikra. Sometimes actions speak louder then words....so be sure to show them how much you love them before it's too late.
1 day a few months back i came acroos an old classfellow of mine who studied with me in school and met her a long time - and she said so nicely tumhain yaad hey tum nay woh kiya tha - i had actually forgotten my self wat i had done
another time when i was in bachelors a girl came to me saying that some old classfelklow had send her to me to be with me -
God i was crazy when i was in school i had 8 best friends who ll always be with me and i had 6 elder brothers so whoever is messing with me they ll take care of them. the worst is when i beat the living hell out of this girl in my class infront of the whole school its not like i did nt suffer becoz of this i had to face suspension but baq then i was proud of myself but now i feel sooo bad i wish i culd just meet her once n say im really sorry n ashamed of myself i tried finding her but i culd nt i guess she moved or sumthing
oh boy!! i did the same mistake once…before getting married obviously…and he made my life hell…
and yea i feel sorry for having soo many bad useless arguments with my hubby…i feel so sorry now…
Not only I suffered parents, grand mother and khalas went through a tough time too 
