I’m in a bit of a dilemma. I’m getting married in a few weeks and my family have just told me I’m not allowed to have any music at my mehndi or any frivolity of that kind. My family are well known in the area for being religious and they’re worried about the usual “what will people think”…I’m kinda bummed about it cos despite being quite practising myself, I dont see the harm in a bit of song and dance at a wedding…
Anyway I’m having a 5 hour mehndi ceremony…I was planning to allocate the first hour or so for eating, the next hour for the tel/mehndi rasam and spend the next couple of hours with dance routines, singing etc
Has anyone any suggestions what I could do instead - I want it to be Islamic and yet fun
Re: Things to do in a mehndi - other than sing/dance/play music
hmmm
well the dancing is wat it makes it fun ...since u cant do that
y dont u do some rasams ...ur parents wud know sum
take pix with friends and aunties
u cud do dholki i suppose every does that?
ps a mehndi i went to ...they hid the dulhan and someone had to find herr..u cud do thatt
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I just think mehndis are the only opportunity for the bride to really let her hair down - the rest is all formality. Thats why I insisted I have one...mujhe kya pata tha ki yeh log mind karenga :(
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B-D: why don't the girls get together in a separate room and do the dancing and singing - it doesn't even have to be recorded.
Otherwise take lots and lots of photo's, open gifts, and u could play some games...let me think what u could play...
....(i can't remeber what its called) basically u make paper mache thing filled with stuff (sweets, etc) and everybody could have a try at bashing that etc.
Re: Things to do in a mehndi - other than sing/dance/play music
first off - congrats on the wedding!! that's so cool - haven't talked to you in a bit..you need to update me missy :p
as for the mehndi - as some of the other guppies mentioned - just have a seperate function, for ladies only, keep the music at a reasonable level so that the people 5 blocks down from you can't hear it..
and if necessary, allow no photography to be done.
i don't understand what's so wrong about the dancing/singing - as long as it's reasonable.
i think the 'rasmain' that we do at mehndi's are the ones that should be taken out :D
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for my mehendi we decided to have a completly seperate function, no photographer/video guy. we just all sat around laughed put mehendi on, then my little nieces and cousins did a little dance thingy. it also depends on how many people you invite. i think the way i did mine would work if you had really close people there, but would get boring in a big crowd.
Re: Things to do in a mehndi - other than sing/dance/play music
I've been to many mehindis where there is no music and dancing. If it's all females you can sing or dance if you would like. You can also play games. Hmmm... another beneficial thing i've seen at many mehndis is married women, (especially the mom, aunts, grandmothers) give advice to the girl who is getting married, sometimes funny little dos/don'ts. There is a very good hadiths or athar about the advice a mother gives her daughter, if you want I can find it and post it for you.
Just have fun with your friends and family... everyone can get mehinde, talk about what they'll wear for shaddi, gossip about your dude ;) and eat yummy snacks :-)
Re: Things to do in a mehndi - other than sing/dance/play music
Its your mehndi you have the right to do whatever you want in it. Dont care what other people think, they will always look for something to backbite about. You're doing this for yourself not to please anyone else.
