Things that Husband SHOULD NOT EXPECT

[Reha]

Re: Things that Husband SHOULD NOT EXPECT

@Wane

Not trying to nit pick here Reha, but I thought the same thing when I read your first post.

I am sure this husband is great, and to the absolute delight of the all the womenfolk here, has given up on the mera part, and is just about tera. Kudos to him. (BTW, that is ALL women ask of us men. Nothing more :))

But seriously, whatever the circumstances, no matter how much he loves the kids, or the hardship she faces when she is alone, when does he get time to spend with his friends or just relax?

Like I said…there is nothing wrong with helping each other out.

When he flies back home Thursday night, do you think she leaves the house as soon as he lands and returns home when he has to leave for work Monday morning? Think about that. They both do their part but the emphasis is on doing what you can to help each other. Im sure most men will look at him and think he is making them look bad but what is wrong with being there for your wife? Is it making you less of a man? What is wrong with giving her a break every so often and appreciating what she does as a mother? About your point in reference to his time alone and away…she actually just hosted Super Bowl parties for him and his friends, cooked up a storm for them and does it every year…not to mention every now and then when he wants to just hang out…its not an issue. Ive babysat her kids many times just so they can have their couples’ night out. Why not? Its not all about her but if she gets appreciated and they have a healthy marriage, that is also an issue for guys? Im sure you’re thinking of him as a joru ka ghulam but let me tell you one thing I admire most about this family:

Their children are the most well-behaved, well-adjusted and happy kids Ive ever met Mashallah. They get good grades in school and Ive yet to see her son get bratty or throw unreasonable tantrums or fits. I joke around and tell her all the time that Im going to give her mine to raise because I do not know how the heck she does it. Im not saying others’ kids arent great…but Mashallah…they’ve nailed it. If you ask her, she says its not a secret…they’re just nice to each other.

Can you believe it? Her answer is that she is simply nice to him and he is to her. Thats it.

If she gets a manicure pedicure with her friends, do you think he gets all prissy and says “omg, like you went and did that with your buddies…i wanna do it too”. Do you think thats what makes them happy? The unnecessary egos and selfishness is not what does it. As a wife, if my husband did those things for me…I would do it back for him and even more to show him I appreciate it.

@NomiCA

didn’t u say that there should be no issue of expectations? i guess all the bold above is what a woman could expect from husband…and so there can also be list of things NOT TO BE EXPECTED by the husband too…

Nomi dear, get married and then we shall see how well your lists work.