Things that Husband SHOULD NOT EXPECT

Wane · February 9, 2011, 12:23pm

Re: Things that Husband SHOULD NOT EXPECT

Like I said Nadz…its not about tera-mera. They help each other. So no, I havent heard her husband getting bitter because he has HIS three kids shoved down his throat. Because he doesnt look at it that way. He is obsessed with his children and loves spending time with them. She does not leave them with him and run off. He thinks of them as his break from work and actually is really involved with them. Its about perspective…if you consider your children punishment that you’re inflicting on each other…well…thats you. But it doesnt work that way for others…thank God.

And WHY would ANYONE applaud what you wrote? Why is it wrong for him to spend time with kids he helped create? Why is it all of a sudden taboo in your world to have a man do things with his children. He is apart from them 4 days a week. The least he can do is help them with their homework and spend time with them when he comes home. While he is with them, if she takes some time to be with her friends, whats wrong with that? Seriously? You want a woman to go mental after being home with 3 kids alone 4 days a week and not have time to do something for herself? Who said marriage and having kids was about figuring out how to torture the spouse? She hangs out with us once every few weeks and he understands why. At least they’re a good example of how two people actively try to help each other live life pleasantly. Mashallah.

Have some grace. No, I dont wanna shoot you. I just feel a bit sorry for you right now.

Not trying to nit pick here Reha, but I thought the same thing when I read your first post.

I am sure this husband is great, and to the absolute delight of the all the womenfolk here, has given up on the mera part, and is just about tera. Kudos to him. (BTW, that is ALL women ask of us men. Nothing more :))

But seriously, whatever the circumstances, no matter how much he loves the kids, or the hardship she faces when she is alone, when does he get time to spend with his friends or just relax?