Re: Things no one told me about pregnancy, child birth and parenting
You will become one of those parents with the screaming 2 year old in the grocery store and there’s nothing you can do about it
Once your child reaches toddlerhood your mornings will be spent helping your tot decide what color underwear to put on.
You’ll probably know this by the time you have your 2nd child- Don’t stress over little things like your baby not sitting yet, crawling or walking yet. You will miss those days when he/she just laid there, kicking his legs
Back to the topic of child birth. Yes it hurts like hell, but don’t stress! When you’re close to your due date it’s always nerve wracking, esp if it’s your first child, but know this - Once you’ve given birth you’ll do it again in a heart beat just to be able to relive that moment you hold your baby in your arms BEST thing in the world ahhhh
That may be a personal choice but episiotmy is a life saver over natural tear. I begged my doc for one but she let it be natural so i had 3rd degree tear and it was and is so so bad along with hemoroid. Even doc could not count the number of stitches i got.
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true
breast feeding is extremely hard especially with hungrier babies like mine
i breastfed till he was 2 (the islamic way). and after that i gave him milk in sippy cup or just in his plastic glass
but what is strange is that when he sees any baby being fed with a bottle he asks for one too
the first 40 days of baby`s birth will look like something u have never experienced before. for me , it was like a nightmare which wont end
it is better to have friends and family around who can help u or cheer u up.(i didn`t)
no pacifier for my baby, i didnt like the idea(it somehow sounded inhuman)
toddlers are hard to handle but mine was hard even when he was little
sleeping through the night has just started after weaning him completely off my breast
Because they remain active since childhood inside or outside house. Not like us dependent on kaam walis or cooks. Also they eat a better diet than our Pakistani diet.
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No one told me c sec recovery would be hellish. That sitting would be painful and walking near impossible initially.
No one told me to continue taking my vitamins with even more diligence than when I was pregnant. This is so important, ladies! I suffered for it.
No one told me how extremely painful breastfeeding would be and how unpleasant mastitis is and how much guilt I would feel over being unable to do this supposedly natural thing for my son. No one told me that it was ok to bottle feed and that children grow up healthy and happy on formula too, and that the most important thing my son needed was, and is, a sane happy well-adjusted mother, not a crazed tired guilt-ridden freak.
No one told me how extremely my body would change afterwards even after just one baby. That my c-sec pooch is a long term visitor and that my breasts will never go back to how they were sans surgical intervention.
No one told me how suddenly everyone is a parenting expert once you have your child. No one told me that its ok to ignore the advice you are given and go with your gut. In fact, I highly recommend it.
No one told me how strong a mother really has to be to support her child and be the center of his or her world. They really do depend on you entirely.
No one told me I would “lose myself”, for about the first 18 months postpartum but that it gets better and you do start feeling less like a 24 hour service center and slowly start to remember what it’s like to be “you”, and not just “mom.”
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newborn babies NEED to suck for comfort and to learn to self soothe. If its not your boob, its their thumb. I’d rather offer a pacifier anyday. Comforting your baby is
the opposite of “inhumane”.
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No one told me that my MIL would use the garbage can as a storage box for my baby’s toys and think nothing of it. No one told me that my MIL would repeatedly do things concerning my baby that get on my last nerve. No one told me that our parents’ generation did things VERY differently and it is a miracle any of us are even alive today…
Re pacifier… I don’t think it’s inhuman or whatever.. I don’t think all babies need to soothe themselves with sucking something either. I think it’s more of a personal choice. My baby did just fine without it. I had strictly told the hospital staff no pacifier. He didn’t need my boob or his thumb. It’s how you train them. No pacifier is just what I preferred. My niece took pacifier and she is perfectly fine too.
Things no one told me about pregnancy, child birth and parenting
Ok, I have a question. Does being active whilst your pregnant make childbirth easier? How active is active during pregnancy? I always hear that and keep thinking it ll be easier if your active ( im not pregnant Ive always wondered). Ive heard horror pregnancy stories and then other stories where they said ohh it was Ok no tearing etc. So Im just wondering are there dos n donts to make childbirth easier and sans tears?
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No one told me that my doctors would not show me my baby instantly and that I would have to ask for him when slit open on the operating table. TWICE. TWICE I asked to see him!
No one told me that there are doctors who don’t give a damn about following up on the patient and baby’s breastfeeding progress
No one told me that it would be the doctors themselves who would keep my baby away from me for over 14 hours in the nursery, bottlefeeding him to kingdom come leading to major nipple confusion and starting us both on the journey of no breastfeeding.
No one told me that I should have gotten out of my c sec anesthetic coma and yelled at the medical staff to effing give me my baby so that I could feed him within a few hours of his birth.
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No one told me that basic medical care was something I should not take for granted.
So now I tell EVERYONE, demand to see your baby please. Demand to have him at your breast immediately. And kill anyone who interferes in this.
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^ woww where did you give birth?
I was shown baby immediately after c section and my husband was able to hold him while they were still stitching me up. We were transported back to our room with him on my chest and I was told to bf within an hour even though there was nothing and I was so out of it. I begged them to keep him in nursery for a few hours so I could sleep that night.. they brought him to me every 2 hours to bf and would wake me up no matter what!
I am so sorry for your experience.. thats plain rude and unnecessary.
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Deme, that is AWFUL. Like gtg, I was shown my baby immediately, hubby held him while they stitched me up, and then they placed him in my arms while I was wheeled to recovery. He spent my entire hospital stay a foot away from me, or in my arms. I would have raised hell had it been otherwise. I’m sorry your experience was so traumatic
spiral, it’s not about training. You can’t train a week old baby to do anything, let alone suck a paci or not. It is an instinctive need for them either way.
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Yeah things are different in the US. After a long labor all I wanted was to be left alone… without my baby but the nurse won’t hear no.. She kept putting my son on my chest. And SGC maybe you are right but my son didn’t need anything. He hated my boobs.. hated bf .. no paci and no thumb sucking. All he needed was a nice cold bottle of milk before night time sleep. Personally I am slightly against pacifier, but I really don’t have a good reasoning for it. Just a preference.
BEST thing in the world ahhhh
( im not pregnant Ive always wondered). Ive heard horror pregnancy stories and then other stories where they said ohh it was Ok no tearing etc. So Im just wondering are there dos n donts to make childbirth easier and sans tears?