they have decided not to get along??? well thats what you think or most of guys would think..what possible could be the reason for them not to get along? koi to hoga?..i don;t c either side getting anything positive out of sucha situation. guys just dont want to take the blame on themselves..:chusni:
Think about it…why wouldn’t a girl want to have a good realtionships with her inlaws? i can’t think of anything unless a girl is a insecure biatch..who just doesn’t trust her husband.
wife and mil can’t have the pefect mom n daughter kind of relationship…no matter how friendly mil is… but i think an average educated girl would try her best to be in good term with her mil as someone else already mentioned (Amana) no matter how close you get to your in-laws..don’t not share your deep secrets… but that does not mean i have decided not to have a good realationship with mil.
fine, now you ladies blame on us . I am not generalising that all of them endup not getting along togather, but the few that do not are rarely due to us. It is rather due to Mother in-law or Wife (sometimes both).
totally agree.
Your parents take care of you, love you, and educate you – abandoning them at any age means betrayel.
Since my husband is the eldest son he talks about caring for his parents in the future. He knows that they would never want to move in with us unless it was completely necessary. They're very independent and want to have their own home, their own lives. Even though they say they don't want to burden anyone, I know deep down that they HOPE their kids will be there for them. Their lives were for their kids and I know there is a fear that maybe their love may not be returned in the end when they need it most.
I get along with them very well. I love them. So I'm completely prepared to bring them into our home because it's their home too. The relationship between dil and in-laws is always a bit of a guessing game. A dil needs to be somewhat of a mindreader because many expectations are unspoken. In-laws don't want to burden their kids but they expect certain things. It's a sensitive situation.
Lalita, huney don't lsiten to all the crap on here that you shouldn't marry him! There's no denying that mirpuri's are a close-knit community, and are reluctant to accept "outsiders". But, from my experience with mirpuri's, time is the major factor - they will accept u. Just show them that u r the best thing for their son. And, moreover the fact that ur fiance has decided he will marry no matter wat, is the most important thing. It shows tell u that he will stand up for u in the future 2 should any problems arise.
Dude, that’s so not true. Most of the time, the husband unreasonably favors one side regardless of who is right or wrong. . . and that causes a lot of tensions.
So maybe the husband should just take the smartest option and say that he has nothing to say about either side, and that they should work it out between them.
^^No I think that's what guys love to do, run away. It's his parents. . . he needs to talk with them if they are being unreasonable. And he can talk with his wife, if she is.
If my parents were being unreasonable, i wouldnt ask my husband to talk with them, i would . . .because they are first and foremost related to me. And if he was being unreasonable, then id talk to him about it. . .
I don't know which option works best, i know what works for us. . . i find it much easier that way and little to no tension.
uhh, most of the time, in desi culture, the wife is expected to do everything and then some. . . and if she complains, i've seen it in many situations where the hubby favors the mom because OH MY GOD SHE IS MOM and she cannot do a wrong.
I wudn’t mind having his family CLOSEBY but only if my parents are closeby as well, like a 5-10 min drive away. I dont think it’s fair that he shud see his family everyday, and I can’t… i dont want entire chungi living behind me, just my mommy and daddy Is that really so bad? is that so horrible, that i dont find it fair to have to leave my parents behind? My parents, esp my mom, made so much sacrifices for me, why shudn’t I take care of them? It just doesnt’ seem fair that i have to leave my parents behind to take care of his.. i mean, i dont find anything wrong in taking care of in laws but what abt my own parents? they were the ones who made all the sacrifices, worked hard, and all for me.. vaat can I do for them
Don’t cry Sara. . . make sure you live closeby to your parents too. You’re right. . . both parents made sacrifices and you guys both should take care of both sets of parents.
its a tough situation to be in Lalita....good luck and hope that ur wishes come true and that u dont have any difficulties getting along wid ur inlaws:)
go Amana!!!
. I am not generalising that all of them endup not getting along togather, but the few that do not are rarely due to us. It is rather due to Mother in-law or Wife (sometimes both).
Is that really so bad? is that so horrible, that i dont find it fair to have to leave my parents behind? 
My parents, esp my mom, made so much sacrifices for me, why shudn’t I take care of them? It just doesnt’ seem fair that i have to leave my parents behind to take care of his.. i mean, i dont find anything wrong in taking care of in laws but what abt my own parents? they were the ones who made all the sacrifices, worked hard, and all for me.. vaat can I do for them 
