Girls have too many guyfriends! Is it wrong for a girl whos married to keep in touch with their guyfriends?
I noticed, some married girls or with boyfriend still keep in touch with their ex’s or have tons of guyfriends online! Wassup with that?
Question for guys:
Would you trust your wife/gf talking with her guy friends?
Question for the girls:
Why do you keep in touch with guyfriends when you have a bf/hubby?
I noticed alot of girls these days, dont keep friendship with other girls cuz they think, other paki girls are B*tches!? Or Fear of other girls back biting? What makes you girls think that guys dont back bite?
its matter of trust i guess.
but even though I will not like contact on daily basis. I dont want to froce her either. but it shouldnt effect our personal life at all.
if the guy is used to be boy friend then i dont think there is point of contact and it can create problems and confusion.
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*Originally posted by Sir Galahad: *
As long as she tolerates my female relationships, I have no specific issues with her keeping in touch with other male friends.
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Ditto.
I don't believe marriage should involve giving up any kind of relationship - except with ex-es.
I definately believe maintaining contact with ex-es is a Bad Idea. Luckily for me, i have no ex-es...
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*Originally posted by Furqan: *
Question for the girls:
Why do you keep in touch with guyfriends when you have a bf/hubby?
I noticed alot of girls these days, dont keep friendship with other girls cuz they think, other paki girls are B*tches!? Or Fear of other girls back biting? What makes you girls think that guys dont back bite?
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I have about two or three male friends and I only talk with them on MSN cause they live in other countries or I just never have time to actually see them. :p
Overall, I have female friends.
Asking somebody to give up their friendships simply cause it's with the opposite gender is a major sign of insecurity. If you can't trust your partner, then you shouldn't be with them in the first place.
I keep in touch with all my close guy friends..from uni and childhood....my husband has met them all and even hung out with them a couple of times... He respects our friendship and more importantly he trusts me....
I totally agree with the not keeping in touch with Ex's or even for that matter keeping letters and stuff from the ex. That is just plain stupid!!!
I think its awesome to see paki girls widenning their friends circles... I mean there are so many "girlfriend" whining threads on this thing you would think guys are happy that the tight circle of girls only friends is dismantling....but i guess its true...GUYS ARE NEVER HAPPY!!!
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*Originally posted by GummyBear: *
I keep in touch with all my close guy friends..from uni and childhood....my husband has met them all and even hung out with them a couple of times... He respects our friendship and more importantly he trusts me....
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interesting....but does your husband trust those guy friends of yours?
I am sure he does...given that I meet them and talk to them without him being around.....
but I think you missed the point..if my husband trusts me...then he also trusts my judgement....and knows I will do what is right for us and our marriage.... so he doesnt need to trust those guys.......
I believe the friends should be shared, its not about a lack of trust its just more sensible and a whole lot more fun if all my friends can be his friends and vice versa.:o
Why would you marry a person whom you can't trust?
Why haven't you asked the same question to the girls? :-)
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personaly i wouldnt marry a girl who i cannot trust in first place......
just my opinion that a girl who is married shouldnt have guy friends in the sense, that she would talk about her marriage/relationship matters with other guys.
Well, I think you will have a tough time to adjust /transition from the current mindset..not that it is wrong...but you do realize it is 'internet' era..everything is easily accessible and so are good friends.
^ maybe you might be able to adjust to their mindset....not me.....personaly i dont plan to marry a girl who has that type of a mindset which u have a vision of.
Please elaborate on "that kind of mindset"... maybe I am missing something...
Like you said and I quote "i wouldnt marry a girl who i cannot trust in first place......" then what is the issue here?
Why do you keep in touch with guyfriends when you have a bf/hubby?
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ure mindset is horribly wrong man.... so that is the only relationship a girl can have with a guy.. either he is her bf or her hubby... ??? do u look at all women as ure potential life partner or lover????? can a man and a woman not be just friends????
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*Originally posted by Furqan: *
Girls have too many guyfriends! Is it wrong for a girl whos married to keep in touch with their guyfriends?
I noticed, some married girls or with boyfriend still keep in touch with their ex's or have tons of guyfriends online! Wassup with that?
Question for guys:
Would you trust your wife/gf talking with her guy friends?
Question for the girls:
Why do you keep in touch with guyfriends when you have a bf/hubby?
I noticed alot of girls these days, dont keep friendship with other girls cuz they think, other paki girls are B*tches!? Or Fear of other girls back biting? What makes you girls think that guys dont back bite?
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I guess coz we don't see most guys as being manipulative and shrewd and witchy like girls can soemtimes be. Guys are simple and dense (or so I've been told) so in a way it's easier to chill with them
personaly i wouldnt marry a girl who i cannot trust in first place......
just my opinion that a girl who is married shouldnt have guy friends in the sense, that she would talk about her marriage/relationship matters with other guys.
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the married girls I know who have guy friends don't have that sort of friendship with the guys. It's strictly a superficial one, so to speak. They won't talk about their marriage and realtionship issues and whatnot and tend to keep it light.
