at the way things are going right now.. i dont think that will be hard to achieve 
How do you describe too many female friends? Any desi male born abroad has a good deal many female friends. Do you just say that wait you need to cut down the time you spend with your female friends?
Most women already have an ex and most desi girls have a "sob story"TM so you just have to deal with it really, no choice in the matter. If you trust your wife then there shouldnt be an issue. If you dont trust her do not marry her.
I think it is ok to have guy friends they are a bit different from girl friends, because guys has different point of wievs on things and it is nice to know their opinion, girls Im not saying all girls but some girls do have some thing else in their mind and something else comes out of their mouth!
I used to keep in touch with one of my ex's whilst I had a bf..and he didn;t mind one bit..coz he knew i was his lady and no one else's in fact he felt proud that he had me and the other guy didn't.
As for having male friends..i dont see anything wrong with it..i have pals since high school who i envision being called "uncle" by my future kids...they're teh kinda guys I've played rugby with and listened to their break up stories and first loves...they're like family.
In the end it's all about hhow much you trust your partner..i'm the jelous kind..especially in teh beginning of teh relationship..but later on I'm okie...but I never doubt whom ever I''m with..I just merely tend to slip my arm through his whenhe's talkin to an extra sexy feamle friend just so she gets the idea and I feel a bit grand :D
I guess it depends how you think of it. If you think of it from a religious point of view, it'd be bad but that also has some exceptions, so it depends.
As about me, I won't mind even if he'd mind me talking to my male friends. I guess no one would or should mind that as far as you've kept everything in limits.
I agree that in today there is a lot of mixing of guy and girl friendship. Personally I disagree with it...I think that you should only be free with your significant other....whether it be hubby/wife, bf/gf, etc...
just talking to some guy is not a sin as long as you keep it clean its not only for gals but for guys too married man should keep it in mind too when talking to gals.
no way i would ever be comfortable with meeting or talking to ex's...so keeping up a friendship is out of the question. If you are talking about casual datings and breakup stuff then it is i guess whole different circle of people where its not a very big deal.
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the married girls I know who have guy friends don't have that sort of friendship with the guys. It's strictly a superficial one, so to speak. They won't talk about their marriage and realtionship issues and whatnot and tend to keep it light.
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^ see some girls are sharing their personal confidential marriage/relationship problems with their guy friends and i think its WRONG!
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^ see some girls are sharing their personal confidential marriage/relationship problems with their guy friends and i think its WRONG!
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and quite stupid.
If its 'confidential', the girl shouldnt really be telling her female friends let alone guys.
And why would a guy be offering a shoulder to cry on, without hoping for something in return?
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^ see some girls are sharing their personal confidential marriage/relationship problems with their guy friends and i think its WRONG!
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Yeah that's wrong. They shouldn't even be sharing "confidential" stuff with their female freinds. Mother, or sister maybe, but not acquaintances. Personally, I don't believe in strong friendships between guys and girls. It's one thing to be nice and polite and firendly, it's another thing to be spending lots of time with them, sharing feelings and ideas, being seen together and such. Islamically it's wrong, and these type of relationships just don't/won't work for me.
^ exactly
How are you ever going to know if your wife is sharing confidential information? What if she doesn't tell you that she's discussing these issues with her friends when she's with them? How are you ever to know what she says, who she talks to and what she does unless you watch her 24/7?
Why can't you just trust her?
^ we are not talking about my wife here....but just telling u from what i see.... i seen girls who are married who talk to other men about their relationship/marriage problems....
i wont mention names
I know we aren't talking specifically about you. I was making a general comment about people and their insecurities and trust issues.
Plenty of men talk to their male and female 'buddies' about relationship problems as well. This isn't a recent phenomenon that is limited only to desi girls.
That being said, anything that is confidential, between husband and wife should remain that way.
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^ we are not talking about my wife here....but just telling u from what i see.... i seen girls who are married who talk to other men about their relationship/marriage problems....
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I see where you are coming from but I'm just curious if you would be OK if these girls were sharing "confidential" stuff with other females? If not then it is not a gender issue.