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lol really? Three of those are rishta stories…situations where someone else judged me according to their world view. Are you telling me you have never been criticized by desis (esp during chai trolley parade) on your look?
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Can’t remember. Probably cause i don’t give a shi*.
Wow thats the spirit! I can relate to ur post. I lost 77lbs that’s 35 kgs 
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sigh, been there done that, went through it all. will never get a rishta, no one will ever like me, “apne ap ko dekha tera kya haq ban ta kuch kehne ka” blah blah blah. The best/worst was from a relative. A year after he got married, he gained like 40 lbs and had a huge tidd and was balding…and had the nerve to say to me “kam khaya karo.”
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If I have or haven’t, how does that relate to your list of looks-related stories?
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You missed my point. I am not actually asking you to relate personally to my stories. Just saying that look-specific comments (whether it is skin colour, height, size, figure, features, etc.) are common for the avg desi girl to hear about during rishta process. Perhaps some lucky girls don’t deal with that, but among my friends and cousins, we all have been subjected to such criticism. It doesn’t mean that we actually have those flaws or that people should be judging us on something so superficial.
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once i was passing by a saadhu baba…he asked for dakshina [alms]…i excused myself by saying “mo’aaf karnaa, baba…chhuTTe nahiiN haiN”…he then abruptly said the following. i felt like slapping him across his face but, since he was a saadhu, i thought it might create a scene, so i waslked away quite angry:
he said:
“jaa bachchaa, tujhko shraap [bad-du’aa] detaa huN…tujhko bhasham [burn] kartaa huN!” 
it has been like 15 years…i’m still alive and well…alHamdolillah!
some beggars really use bad lingo if they are turned down.
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Ang even then u judged other moti women.
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you’re just sooo cool
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I wanna be cool like Ethan. Give me lessons, Ethan. 
Ang even then u judged other moti women.
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I DID NOT JUDGE ANYONE! I dont know how many times do I have to tell you this? I just want a lean trainer to inspire other moti women..ive gone through this crazy weight loss journey and you can never understand what it means to lose 77lbs and how hard it is. And how important IT IS TO HAVE A TRAINER WHO CAN MOTIVATE YOU..
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Well the irony in the word, MOTIVATE !! !! moti weight , or moti wait
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I can the see the impacts of what others have said 
I on the other hand literally don’t care what anyone else about me. Too lazy to take notice 
cause if I even listen to the daily crap I would be a much different person.
Lucky you… I cant get any thing off my mind easily. Ive wasted half of my life thinking about people who have been mean to me… I know that’s crazy
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It;s their job to bak bakaa karna, ignore karhein un ko
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^Yeah lucky him.
No matter how much you try to ignore but you still get to notice. Some people just enjoy making someone feel bad & the funny thing is they don’t even have a clue about someone else’s life but still they pass weird remarks. Ignoring them sounds like a good option but its just different people have different approach towards everything.
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^ nailed it.
it says a lot about their own lives ; )
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bloody ironic.
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Well, Iconoclast is right.
The beauty about us humans is that when we see somebody else doing it we call it ‘judging’ and ‘mean’. But when we do it we come with all kind of weak arguments to justify our behavior.
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‘You’re so dumb/stupid/foolish… don’t know anything’ etc etc… This is from all kinds of people from family members to friends. Although at first, these words cut through me like a knife, I realised in time not to take any notice of what they are saying. I thought to myself and still do think to make myself feel better that they themselves must feel like this and just are relaying it onto me to take out their frustration.
I used to get angry and upset at first but now I don’t and just take it. I don’t mean take it in a bad way, but by that I mean I take it in and take no notice of it. It doesn’t make me feel any different. I simply dismiss it with a shrug. At most, it makes me want to work harder in whatever aspect which people think and seem is my limitation. I find these taunts to be good for me because for example as in school, it makes me work harder and harder just so I can show these people my A grades. This has happened too and the look on their faces is priceless. Also I never retaliate and taunt them too because I don’t want to stoop down to their level. Just work hard in silence and let your success make the noise