Re: the word "Love"
Love and dependency are different things. You are mixing the two.
"Love is a feeling that changes over time".... What do you mean by that?
And you also said, "if you don't allow it too". That indicates that you think that you control it and you have to make an effort to stay in love. ????? Actually, I think so too. But then it is not a feeling anymore; it is a decision. The unconditional love transforms into conditional love..... A conditional love is not really love.
Please read it twice. I understood what I wrote, when I read it the second time.