in the romantic sense in a marriage
a single girl asking a guy if they can have a coffee together
even in the intimate setting…
how do the men here feel about that? would that be seen in a negative or positive way considering that most desis are conservative?
PS: not asking advice here just trying to understand all men’s POVs
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romantic scene, marriage.. single.. wth.. are you talking about ?
Quite a low possibility, because 99.999% of desi women lack balls.
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what a generalization again, not all men or women are the same nor do they think the same way
i’ve seen desi women asking men out on dates if they get the sense that the guy is interested too.
all i’m asking is would the men here see her as too extreme or would he actually see her as gutsy?
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its similar to when men ask women - if you are hot, it’s romantic. if you arent, you are creepy. good luck. 
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No comments!
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Have confidence! I don’t think its a big deal if the woman intiates the step, in fact I would do it too if I were in a situation with no hesitation whatsoever, but I would have to gauge what kind of a guy he was first, most guys present themselves as if they wouldn’t mind.
Disclaimer: I’ve not done this, just very confident it would work if I did want to. 
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Depends how a woman makes the first move and what settings.
Without going in to details,
Marriage: Anything is kosher.
Not married: Sensible non sexual/ non-intimate casual invitation like coffee place invitation is not too bad.
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right but then some might see her in a negative way if she actually executes the first move scenario…
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not a personal question 
oh so it’s great only if the girl is hot with big tatas and a butt like shakira?
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.. I have asked a guy out for lunch but that was more like Co-worker friend and i needed a ride so i had to ask him ! but other than that i m sure there are many girls who make first moves and its totally fine with the guys i know 
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^are those guys desi?
why is everything you talk about related to balls???
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All the more power to the woman. It would make life easier on us guys. We won’t strike out so much.
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you’re saying this because you were raised abroad(right?) but the more conservative men would probably see it as the man’s job to make the first move…totally guessing here. even if they try to show themselves as open minded no?
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I dont know about you but rest of us 99.999% men like ar women without balls 
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I do (edit: did) because when I want something I don’t mess around. I hate games. I doubt I’d be attracted to a guy who didn’t like a woman with confidence.
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I thought you were married. Odd.
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happies now?
actually, no. i prefer ‘do’ because i’m talking in the general sense of just going for what i want. not just nabbing the husband.
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Nope not particularly. I was merely confused at the grammar.
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Why? All it would mean is that I still date. How do you think affairs happen?