Let’s be honest, no girl looks like the way she does on her wedding day in reality.
We can clean up and look nice, or we can look our regular selves. I don’t put make up on every regular day, only when I go to work etc. The real me isn’t that pretty. I have acne that I’m fighting, and even if you take the acne away, I look fairly tired, and my skin looks worn now, and my hair has gotten super dry so it looks like gurya ke bahl, that sort of dry poofy texture.
So, when he finally sees me on skype or in real life, I’m afraid he’s gonna be like…gross…
But I don’t wanna look all fake with loads of make-up either.
Did any of you show your real face to your husband prior to marriage? Is that something you should even do, or bad move? And men, did you feel any different after you saw a girl without make-up as oppose to make-up on. Was that ever a deciding factor?
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I always felt it is good to show your make-up less face to everyone you meet for the first time..so that you don't have to worry about what people will think of you if they see the real you. This included my husband, and lucky for me he doesn't like to see make-up on girls. Your inner person is what matters the most.
The only time ppl see me with make-up for the first time they meet me is at work.
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So far i have seen men complaining about women wearing too much makeup and being unnatural. I think this is female own psyche that she wants to look extra ordinary beautiful. Though males do get attracted to that makeup beauty but even for them value of simplicity is like pure gold and makeup-made totally artificial.
**PyariCgudia
**you should try to work on improving ur skin and hairs with some natural remedies, no big deal. Just be confidence about yourself. The real you is inside you and that should be beautiful. Any woman can win man heart by her inner beauty than just showing only in appearance:)
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I think theres no harm in wearing basic make up on a daily basis just so you look more presentable and decent. What I mean is wearing a little bit of foundation and a little bit of eyeliner just so you look more fresh. what I don'tmean is the cakey Barbie doll look. I mean even we ourselves feel better when we look presentable. A little bit of makeup especially Foundation goes a long way
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So far i have seen men complaining about women wearing too much makeup and being unnatural. I think this is female own psyche that she wants to look extra ordinary beautiful. Though males do get attracted to that makeup beauty but even for them value of simplicity is like pure gold and makeup-made totally artificial.
This is very true. Basic make-up that slightly enhances your looks is ok. But the amount of make-up a lot of girls put on today is just gross.
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As a male its fine to expect a girl to do some basic makeup, no one wants to see a girl coming out of her bed, but it should be done within a limit. Don't go overboard. You should appear tidy rather than a glam doll.
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I met a guy for coffee a couple of months ago in a set-up situation and I knew going in, I wasn't interested. While I didn't put on the whole face makeup (I did the 3 minute make-up version), I was damned if I was going to be rejected for being unattractive to him.
I'm a proponent of putting your best self forward. But yourself is what you look like, not the airbrushed, lacquered with make-up version - so that when the makeup comes of, you're still recognizable.
For those girls who think unplucked eyebrows, cracked chapped skin and lips and the splotchy red face is the way to go - more power to them, I commend their self-confidence. For me, I aim for not coming across as unattractive and if a wee bit of make-up helps with the cause, and enhances, rather than conceals my looks, then why not?
And for those who are graced with natural beauty - perfectly arched eyebrows, big eyes, thick lashes and flawless skin, the rest of us are jeaous of you :(
It's personal grooming to look polished. And come to think of it, if I'm meeting up with friends, I go to the same effort, so it's not for guys, it's for me.
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I don't put make up on every regular day, only when I go to work etc.
...but you work full time, so that's pretty much 70% of your week when you normally wear makeup. In my opinion, when you're meeting someone new, you should meet them in your normal, everyday look...if that's with makeup, then so be it. They should know how you will look majority of the time after marriage.
Agreed with everyone else. Makeup should be applied to achieve a natural look that enhances the features.
Remember acne is not forever. Don't let it hurt your confidence. You're a doctor, so you are probably already treating it with medicine.
For your hair, you can get a hair treatment from a quality salon. It helps with split ends, dryness, and other hair problems. Alternatively, you can try Pantene or Garnier hair repair conditioners/masks for a few weeks at home.
Exercise, think positive, and smile. That's it really =)
Oh, and don't think too much into every small detail.
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I don't think you need to be dolled-up always but I do think you should be well groomed and not sloppy. Even the basics are enough threading, waxing etc. and neat/maintained nails.
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no bimbo makeup.......show both real face..and slight make up too.....because he needs to see that the uglyness can be improved upon and all hope ain't lost..
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It's personal grooming to look polished. And come to think of it, if I'm meeting up with friends, I go to the same effort, so it's not for guys, it's for me.
^this.
nothing more, nothing less.
respect yourself and treat yourself well.
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This actually reminds me of a story of a very close friend of mine, she was seeing this very nice and simple guy who would always compliment non stop about her "rosy cheeks", he was seriously impressed and smitten by her complexion. So my friend started feeling a little guilty about receiving such beautiful compliments about her blushing cheeks which she wished was a feature of her natural beauty but it wasn't. So one day she decided to see the guy without any colour on her cheeks and the guy was all surprised and asked her if she's okay as she looks quite sick, to that she replied "no this is me without any make up on" lol
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Being presentable and being dolled up are two very different things. Everybody should seek to look presentable and some of us (like yours truly) need a lot of help figuring that out. However when it comes to make up I have personally in favour of the minimalist look. Mascara and lipstick is more than enough in my opinion. Just don't cake on that white powdery stuff. That stuff is nasty.
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You should def not get dressed up like a dulhan and skype.. Hehe awwwkkkwardd!!!! I know i know im just kidding but there is nothing wrong with presenting yourself polished. You can lightly even out your skin with a bb cream or a tinted moisturizer so your actual skin might just peek thru but polished. Your tresses can be straightened or put it in a messy bun. I am pretty sure he will try to look presentable too. I think men have somewhat an idea whats underneath the makeup so don't think ke its some form of dhokha... Its not!!!
