Re: The Way We Raise our Boys
I dont want to agree with the generalization that all desi men are pigs...every culture has different values and different ways of raising their children so there are tendencies that do exist but that doesnt mean everyone is the same.
Anyway, I dont think the problem is the mothers and I dont think its too much or too little love. Desi boys are raised to beleive that women are to be kept separate. The whole way women are treated (the women are to stay home, college isnt as important for a girl, women have to cover themselves when going out, women are hidden from males that arent family etc etc) this all has a big impact on how boys view them. Girls and boys are not raised in an equal-opportunity environment hence the girls grow up with inferiority complexes and boys grow up with a mistrust and disrespect (for lack of a better word) of a female population they know nothing about. In an earlier post, I wrote of a 3 year old boy who was visiting us with his mother in the summer. While we were in a store, this child saw a woman in a small tank top and this little kid started yelling "Mommy, that lady NAKED! SHOOT her!" he was completely serious, thought the woman should be shot. This is most definitely the fault of the parents and how they are raising him, nothing to do with how much love and attention he gets but rather how he is being taught to view women.