I wonder sometimes if the way mothers raise their boys is really the main problem in our jerk-filled society?
Mothers give way too much to their boys. If I have a son, he’s gonna work his behind off! No cuddling, no kisses, no hugs - just a smart smack on the face if he misbehaves. I wonder if this will turn him into a real man rather than a spoiled mother’s boy.
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how are you going to have a son? Last I heard lesbians can't procreate.
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jerk.
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PCG, nice thought, Moms can do everything in their power, a boy still learns more from watching his father. If the father is a deadbeat who can’t move his ass to get a glass of water, don’t expect miracles from that boys when he grows up. But I see your point, little boys are spoiled by their mommies (meri aankoon ka tara, meri jan ka tota) because penis is valued so much in our society.
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Ok for argument sake, lets say that you turn straight just to have a son so that you can raise a proper gentleman. Well then are you going to mate with a pig? I feel sorry for that pig.
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There are sperm banks. :k:
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Lussi this is a serious topic of discussion, let’s talk about what you think can be done to raise good boys.
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Yes, I agree. Its not about my sexual orientation - please do not be so concerned as to how I will get impregnated - its none of your business in the first place.
How would YOU raise your boys, Lussi?
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Raising kids is a woman's duty. Men have a lot of other things to worry about.
Though IMO one thing that a boy must have is courage. He must have no fear and have high confidence.
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coming to main topic,
boys' girls , in my opinion, both should be treated same. I had this from my parents too, we all three treated same. i wasnt given any special treatment for being only son. and thats the way it should be.
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you shouldnt use those, as you brand all men are pigs on other thread!!
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Another question is the lack of attention a girl gets from the mother that leads to all this resentment for men?
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^ oo good one.
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hmm emotionally detached parents are a contributory factor to homosexuality in kids...
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Why would a girl hate men if her mother neglected her? Please explain Dr. Freud
PCG, try being a mother first before you decide what you will and won’t do. Your placing blame on the mother and society, decide which one after you’v had a child.
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Hmm.........PCG, the way you plan to treat your son will only make him another one of those jerks you think are pigs. How we behave, comes directly from how we were raised. Although my mo ther isnt stricly one of those moms who say, " meray dil ka tokra" etc to my brother, she still tries to baby him a lot. She will ask us to do his chores, take care of his things etc etc. But considering how my dad is, very active and helpful around the house, my brother has picked up a lot of his habits. Never leaves a dirty dish in the sink, vaccums around the house quite a bit, buys groceries for us etc etc. MaashaAllah a good kid, over all.
So the main message in this long post of mine is:Treat your girls and boys equally and teach them to be responisble and independent, i am pretty sure you will have a decent pig at your hands :)
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Spending time with your kids helps a lot. Regimenting helps as well. That is one reason MO3 and I decided early on that she would give up her career. You have to keep your kids occupied completely so they don't have time for devious things.
Unfortunately I grew up in a military boarding school so we were really regimented all the time. But it helped once I graduated and saw undiciplined kids around me.
On the same token it has negative effects , cause I expect my kids to be proper and they are too young, so there is this balancing act that I have to perform. In other words I can't scream on the top of my lungs like a drill instructor in school used to do that to us 6yr olds.
I agree with Ira. When my kids are older and done with their bar-mitzvah (puberty age). One needs to explain to them that women are not b1tches but humans and to treat them as such. Vigilance and control.
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just love your kids..cuddle..hug..kiss..whatever...but love em equally...be them male or female..and both parents need to sent a good example.
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Regardless, as of yet, I haven't heard anyone say anything really constructive - like a real plan - just vague ideas and vague intentions...
So many Pakistani men are messed up evidently, it must be something about how they're raised? Or is it the outside environment - in which case should we not let our dear boys out to play with the ghandagi in the mohallah?