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yeah stupid.
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In any case we cannot justify girls and guys in these scenarios. Means i don't know what the girls were thinking at that time. Don't they have aqal to think about their acts and to differentiate between right and wrong. And then they start blaming guys for using them. In these scenarios i don't blame guys only. Both (boy and girl) are responsible of their behavior.
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Jab pyar kya tho darna kya… :halo:
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…and when the guy runs away tou Marna kya 
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I hate when people give excuses for such things. Yes maybe some people lack self control and what not but at the end of the day we all are humans and are bestowed with that much control over our self that we can say no to such acts. However if you chose not to, then at least be honest and don't blame the other person involved for using you. If you are old enough to want to do the act, then i am sure you are old enough to own up to your blunders too.
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The guy can't touch her or even look at her in an inappropriate way if **she **doesn't want him to. Both are at fault, no need to paint a rosy, bollywood picture of zina.
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Can women here comment on whether their parents had "the talk" with them, not just about the physical act, but the implications after? The effect it can have (unfairly or not) on a woman's reputation, especially among desis?
Personally, if I have a daughter, I'll tell her to assume every guy's intentions are questionable when it comes to sex until you're married. Is it extreme? Yes, but I'd rather my daughter be a bit cynical than naive.
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Okay girls out there.... Keep this in mind.
A Pakistani guy wont ask you to have sex before marriage if his intention is to marry you. So if he does, PLAYER alert !
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I think a lot of it has to do with the atmosphere most desi youngsters grow up in. Even talking about sex is a taboo, yet you cannot deny the fact that a teenager undoubtedly feels physical attraction towards the opposite sex. It's this secretive, closed atmosphere which leads to more curiousity and perhaps temptation. It's human tendency isn't it - if something is kept a secret from you, you try more and more to find out what it is. It's upto the parents to encourage open dialog about sex and its consequences, and more importantly create a comfortable atmosphere where your kids can talk about their fears, concerns openly.
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Why do you care?
Quite frankly morals are morals. You can't argue with religion. The girls are just as guilty and there is no need to feel sorry for them just because they got used and discarded. Islam strictly prohibits physical relations before marriage for a reason.
Why can't girls stop doing this? Because they don't FEAR Allah.
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Larkay to hotay hi aisay hein but girls should always take some extra precautions in a relationship (i dont mean "precautions"). No one should be trusted so easily.
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Haters gon’ hate. Seeerious.
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because they dont have self control.
:D
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Uhh honestly-that is news to me. :/
certainly.
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I honestly have no sympathy for girls who get themselves into these types of situations. If they don't have enough self-control to resist the temptation to fool around then they should deal with the consequences.
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Both girls and guys have self control and they should know how to practise it. No girl or guy jump to have sex at once. Acts like holding hands, getting close, intimate gestures etc lead to non-permissible sex before marriage and a girl and guy should refrain themselves from such small 'harmless' acts since they can lead to bigger mistakes. For that matter, friendship between opposite gender is prohibited but we cannot restrict ourselves from meeting and befriending opposite gender and getting emotionally and romantically involved with them. If any such feelings start arising between them, the best is to get married immediately. If for some reason, they can't get married, they should avoid getting intimate keeping in mind that they may NOT get married and they should avoid getting engaged in such haraam acts. If they involved in such acts, both are responsible but girls are obviously considered 'used' and thus more badnaami for them.
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that is what(self control) I responded to OP. I focused on girl’s self control because at the end of the day she will face more problem.
I am astonished by few replies that girl trusted the guy. 
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Sorry if you did not catch, I merely highlighted two extreme emotions these kind women/girls have.
One night all ready to give everything, next week develop hate. And they never try to see the reality that they were also part of the act.
Like here:
“Main Majboor Thi, Woh Badmaash Tha.” 
(I also emphasized on concrete *and *legitimate reasons)
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a girl wanting to marry the kind of guy that wants to get physical before marriage, deserves all that she gets and then some
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The notion of love is beautiful to a woman's romantic heart.
So they trust a man that says "I love you and .
ff
Some woman have more then a heart.
So ...... :D