u know..those girls who get ‘used’…and then ‘discarded’ by some guys…who get into their pants…promising stuff and then leaving when they are done…
what i don’t get is…are those girls stupid?? can’t they think straight??
like..everyone is telling them…don’t go too far, don’t get physical, don’t trust random people…and stop dreaming…
but what they do??
they fall in some ‘love’…end up getting ‘used’…and later on whine and cry about being ‘fooled’ n all…
also… we all know those guys are scum who use girls like that…but nobody seems to point out the immoral conduct of the girl involved…like if you are taking off your chaddeee before marriage…it does reflect on your poor morals too…
The guy gets into the girls pants because of hormones and lack of self control. The girl allows it because of hormones, lack of self control, and trust.
All about trust, esp. if he introduces her to his family and friends. Girls let it slide b/c they think they are trust-worthy and that they'll def. end up married. I have a few friends who did get physical w/ the guy they were "about to get married to", as in a guy who her parents knew about/his family knew about her and then right after the physical aspect started, the relationship went down hill.
Strange. And Nomi, the girls do get blamed for their moral conduct but then they usually are whisked off to get married with another guy that all that previous stuff is forgotten. Sad and depressing.
I don't think it's so much about the girl not having any moral values and such. I personally feel it's more due to the fact that they trust the guy and like him a lot, and they feel after getting 'used' he will be hers forever, with the sweet things he says. Then when everything fades away they realize they have made this stupid mistake...
I don't believe that girls would initiate the physical aspect as such generally.
If they do then sure, they are of immoral character/behaviour.
But in cases where the guy does initiate, if the girl fancies herself in love with him, then I would imagine that she'd be torn between giving him what he wants and being prudent.
u know..those girls who get 'used'.......and then 'discarded' by some guys...........who get into their pants....promising stuff and then leaving when they are done...
what i don't get is.........are those girls stupid?? can't they think straight??
like..everyone is telling them.......don't go too far, don't get physical, don't trust random people.........and stop dreaming.....
but what they do??
they fall in some 'love'........end up getting 'used'.......and later on whine and cry about being 'fooled' n all..........
also......... we all know those guys are scum who use girls like that.............but nobody seems to point out the immoral conduct of the girl involved....like if you are taking off your chaddeee before marriage.........it does reflect on your poor morals too...........
why girls can't stop doing this?
It's not the trust issue, opposite sexes are always attracted to each other. Some people have guts to explore further, some just stop at the red line. I know couple of Mullahs & mullani's (now) who were playboys in school & college days, probably according to certain definition i was also like that.
Consent sex is the term i will use for most of the pre marriage sex.
The notion of love is beautiful to a woman's romantic heart.
So they trust a man that says "I love you and will marry you" because it sounds and feels amazing.
Its a bit more complicated than the above but thats what happens in simple terms.
It's still pretty stupid of them. Most of the girls I know who are in/have had a physical relationship are either in it for the fun and know very well what they're doing or they're overtly naive and view the world through rose-coloured glasses. The former are not victims in any sense. The latter possibly are victims to an extent but I'd say they're pretty stupid. They're victims of their own foolishness. A guy who betrays a girl's trust is scum. But what do you call girls who betray their parent's trust in pursuit of these kinds of relationships?
diwana, I know how easy it is for men of your nature to assume the worst about a woman.
Its usually the other way around firenze.
No one said they’re smart. Its still stupid of course. But my attempt was to simply explain what the overtly naive girls probably think when they trust a man like that.
well because, if you look around these days, girls who come from very religious families, and well respected families, are involved in this kind of stuff. Most of these girls most likely would even believe what they are doing is wrong, but most are VERY naiive as said in another post, and think that "oh, after having sex, he'll be mine for sure" kind of thing... and also if you look at the American culture it's "totally okay" to lose your virginity at a young age...so they have totally different set of values...and there are some pretty Americanized Pakistani's in this world... but that wouldn't necessarily mean that person has no "morals and/or values".
