Re: The “USED” girls
So saying what it is, is disrespect? 
Let me reiterate.
1- Both are responsible.
2- If guys are bad when engaged in such act, then girls who go with it are just as bad. Not naive, stupid or trusting kind. No defence here for both.
3- Now that is balanced view not disrespectful to girls/women in general at all.
4- Gossiping is not acceptable but that is different argument.