^hey sara516, I agree with all you said, but as distasteful as it sounds the other truth is, that some men just get bored with one wife or get greedy for additional women.
you can call it sick/dirty/pervertness. But even religion says Allah has made man polygamous by nature.
Pls remember Im not condoning any-kind of halal or non-halal promiscuity on the side of men, I am just making a direct point to the title of the thread.
I am nothing more than being active in this thread for the reason of raiseing awareness of the contributing factors for everyones benefit.
As The first step in addressing a problem, is being aware of the weakness and causes leading towards it.
If women are really serious about taking control of thier men, I have strived to provide a emphatetic service, and speaking from a mans point of view, you really should target and address each of the 5 main factors I listed in my earlier post.
Being a man, the 5 key factors I identfied earlier, really are the ones we men need to be educated and given attention on, if this cheating phenomena is to be reduced.
As cheating not only worries women, but some men too.
On a personal note; If i was married and my wife made it an important issue to give me attention, reguarly address, emphatise, educate me on the above issues to show how much she loves me and is equally important for her to recieve eternally the same response.
I would definetly be more greatly driven to preserve myself.
I dont think 'the lack of control', is just due to mens 'filthy' nature.
'Lack of control/lack of care', is also partly due to the lack of deterents existing to them because of the absence of social pressures and educations on preserving chastity.
i.e. they miss the kind of conditioning women get
Also The islamic punishment fear of zina or adultery also fails to internalise within men, since most due to geographical advantages are not ever going to be liable to the 100 lashes or stoning to death.
So Social presurre and constant education is a must.