Re: the TALK!
In Islam, a daughter in law is NOT obligated to serve her husband's family. However, the parents do have full rights over their son and he is most certainly required to do anything that his parents will regardless of whether he is married or not. It's your husband's duty to realize how to handle both. I feel that instead of you fighting over this issue, it is mainly your husband's duty to stick up for your family and handle this situation with your parents. You have all the rights as his wife and if you're unhappy then your husband should tell by now that something isn't right. He needs to sit down with his parents and explain all of this to them. He needs to get across that YOU also have rights and are not looking for a life of slavery where you have no freedom. I have seen plenty of joint families where their life is so balanced out. Each of them know when to give each other space and privacy and I think it's mostly a matter of realizing that.