Re: the TALK!
Right, just like we’re all tired of hearing abt girls’ forced arranged marriages to fobs? :pagli:
Re: the TALK!
oooh snap!!!
Re: the TALK!
u know what? just ship them off to alaska and make sure ticket is one way only. if u husband asks about them tell him they ran away with each other. 6 months down the road, we’ll see penguins posting on GS complaining aobut them 
:halo:
on the funny side…why don’t you talk to them? don’t bother to involve your husband if he is too mamma’s boy to do anything about it. tell them your at the edge of ur patience and will snap anytime. you see one of the draw backs of living in western countries is that u cannot take law in your own hands. if it were pak it would have been much easier to have them kidnapped and ship off to waziristan to fight the terrorists. but sadly u can’t do that here. so your best bet is to sit down with them, then get up, sit down again, get up again until they complain of pain in their knee joints n then sit for the final round table discussion and tell them straight how you feel about their attitude n behavior towards you. make them listen even if u have to use MEGA PHONE!!! :k: if they don’t change then change in-laws.
Re: the TALK!
In Islam, a daughter in law is NOT obligated to serve her husband's family. However, the parents do have full rights over their son and he is most certainly required to do anything that his parents will regardless of whether he is married or not. It's your husband's duty to realize how to handle both. I feel that instead of you fighting over this issue, it is mainly your husband's duty to stick up for your family and handle this situation with your parents. You have all the rights as his wife and if you're unhappy then your husband should tell by now that something isn't right. He needs to sit down with his parents and explain all of this to them. He needs to get across that YOU also have rights and are not looking for a life of slavery where you have no freedom. I have seen plenty of joint families where their life is so balanced out. Each of them know when to give each other space and privacy and I think it's mostly a matter of realizing that.
Re: the TALK!
whitejasmine ( i cannot believe i am saying this but here it goes), since they think you are being disrespectful towards them, maybe you should show a little bit of disrespect so they know what it really means. Sorry for not being able to give you any other advice but i hope the situation gets better somehow.
Re: the TALK!
Seriously I think u need a break, no I'm not insulting u or anything what I'm saying is u and ur husband and children need to go for a vacation or something or send ur saas and saasur to a vacation.
This goes on in my house regularly infact my dadi lives with us, but afer a while I think everyone needs a break her and us- at the moment she's currently on holiday.
After that u and ur husband need to sit down and discuss it and come up with a solution. Talk to ur inlaws- be brutal if need be because at the end f the day if ur not happy in ur own home then they obviuosly wont be that happy as well as there will be tension. I can understand ur mother-in-law acting like a mother to ur children and my grandma does it as well, but in reality if ur children understand that respect grandma but listen to mama then all should be well.
Get the point across and the both of u should stick to ur view
Inshallah hope all goes well for u