Re: the staring by some desi men
, i never thought of it that way
but looking is different from constantly staring every other second see 
Re: the staring by some desi men
Bulld0zer u hav a pointtt … jo b karo badnaam tou vese he hai sab larkaii
Re: the staring by some desi men
Desi men do it..so that they can remember what women look like....
there are two parts to the stare......first one is the look.....and if they like then it converts into stare.......obviously thats just to compliment women for how nicely they got 'prepared' i mean 'kitni achi tyaar hui hai'
and there are some pervert guys.....they would look at anything looking 'remotely feminine'....those are the guys who give money to khusraas on traffic signals..
Re: the staring by some desi men
ugh these are educated well dressed men, it's just a cultural difference that's all. it is cute in some tiny way. i realized staring isn't really as big a deal as it is here or in general in the west, so namaan is right, in india and pak,** it's just something that we need to get accustomed to, if we aren't used to it.**
Why do we need to get accustomed to it? Wouldn't the more sensible thing be for men just to stop (or at least the mothers start teaching their sons that it isn't appropriate)..
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Deeba, i totally understand what you're saying and i hope one day that does happen that desi men and women stop the staring
that's why i said it was a cultural thing since looking at sara's thread, we can see that yes men definitely do the staring and x-raying more often but women are prone to do it as well. I know i've come across my fair share of women that just feel like i'm the show on for the day. i don't get how they can just stare for that long. it's annoying when women do it too.
until that cultural change happens i think we'll have to get accustomed to it or learn to do the x-raying back.
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I have not understood the point of this thread yet beyond the purpose of bashing desi men.
Desi women complaining desi men staring (tarring) desi women.
Non-desi men may not be tarring some of you desi women.
So be thankful at least desi men are taking notice of you. 
Such a fake complain. You know you love it when we ‘stare’. 
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^ i hope you get one of those x-raying police women that were staring at namaan staring you up and down and all around for the whole time you're near them. I was not bashing desi men
at first i didn't think it was "for admiring beauty", it would make anybody uncomfortable. i would prefer them saying it out whatever is on their mind, then it wouldn't be such a big mystery and then a woman doesn't have to feel nervous or uneasy about it.
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^Partially true (Diwana's response)
Whether girls enjoy the stare or not depends on a few factors:
1) Does the guy look well-kept? Or does he look cheap? (I guess I'm not being politically correct)
2) Is the stare a stare of admiration and attraction or blatantly lustful?
3) Does the guy make an effort to not stare continuously or does he ogle without a stop?
4) Is he staring without an expression or does he have a creepy smile on his face (I wonder if men understand what I'm talking about!) ?
In conclusion, some stares feel like compliments while others make one feel awful- especially those which one knows are from married men!
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^^don’t know about married or single men, but what stops a man from saying it out? is a woman supposed to be so full of herself that she thinks every perverted stare as well as the admiration stares are because of her looks entirely and they are a positive.
wouldn’t a woman trip and fall over if a man stared at her up and down every time she walked across the room. i would most probably since my attention would be on whatever is staring me down
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What stops a man from saying that he finds her attractive rather than just staring? Being verbal is more intrusive than staring is.
What are the negative reasons for a man staring?
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well unlike most men, don't most women always pick out their faults or flaws when they look in the mirror. not generalizing here. but are most women so over confident in their looks that they just automatically assume the stares are for "attractiveness" and not focusing on the flaws.
god gave a man a beautiful mouth or the gift of writing, speak out the admiration in the form of poetry and not a confusing stare. the worst that can happen is she could care less but atleast there would be no misunderstandings. just a tip :-)
anyways, was in no way bashing or picking on desi men. was just something that always made me uneasy or confused.
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I think you are being too unrealistic here.
Off course men also would like women to come up to them and say: " Hey baby! You kinda cute! Whatchya doin tonight?"
But no that is not reality. It just gives “fuzzy warmth” in cold nights in bed to men or women.
Besides, both men and women either think other person is too forward or in reverse situation they think other person may not like it.
P.S. If I were to be doing that, meaning walking up to any woman and saying whatever I felt in all previous days and years, I would be pretty much bruised up or beaten up if not dead by now. 
Partially true? 
Anyhow, agree with your points.
Please read above what stops a man (or a woman).
In an ideal, open world that would be possible, but even in so called open societies that is not so common.
Yes, that may be more embarrassing too for a lot of women.
There are nagative reasons too. But what I was referring to is most women do like being stared at regardless if they are shy or not. Depending on the circumstances of course.
You are talking about her insecurity here which could make her doubt the reason for the stare. I already mentioned that above in respect to booger in the nose.
Most men are just horny. They still try to ignore the flaws and focus at something attractive be it the the shape/color of her lips or eyes, or whatever… or size of her…
So rest assured, when be stared at… Feel comfortable and at best ignore if do not like it. Just a tip!
Again that is asking for something not so common. Both men and women feel uneasy in speaking out.
No man would just write a poem to a stranger at first sight. That would be a nerdy act! 
Please snap out of the dream. :Chutki Bajaying: 
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i’ve always believed in speaking one’s mind whatever it might be(of course taking into consideration the risks). i hate misunderstandings or mixed signals or x-raying/perverted stares. whatever the outcome of the direct approach, i personally would prefer a man or a woman to speak his/her mind. hate the emotional games/ mixed signals/stares.
i’ve started a thread. i guess it depends on personal opinion and preferences but speaking one’s mind in beautiful poetry is not a one way ticket to dreamland but a positive step…well I personally don’t think it would lead to a slap on the face
PS: oh and i said nothing about the staring people being “total strangers” btw, thanks for the man’s POV on all this
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I've noticed a huge change in Pakistan, the men there don't stare as they used to few years ago, probably coz they're getting more educated or probably coz there's so much to see on tv or probably coz more women are wearing niqab and abayas now.
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Formal Education has nothing to do with staring.
All men from all backgound stare. Some openly do it some do it when she is not looking.
Those who openly do it are called 'uneducated'.
Women from some background do not complain so much for being stared at also. They may even take it as:
1- compliment...or
2-just ignore it or
3-smile to themselve and say: "Munda Phuns gaya!" :)
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Why do we need to get accustomed to it? Wouldn't the more sensible thing be for men just to stop (or at least the mothers start teaching their sons that it isn't appropriate)..
1) Men are visual. They will always notice an attractive woman.
2) In Desi culture, it is inappropriate to go up to a women and talk to her, ask her out etc. So men stare instead. Sexual repression.
Please correct my if I'm wrong, I haven't been to Pakistan in a while.
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^ Even in 'open' societies men don't just go out to women and ask them out. Nothing to do with so called repression. Not every stare is sexual also.
Re: the staring by some desi men
I've noticed a huge change in Pakistan, the men there don't stare as they used to few years ago, probably coz they're getting more educated or probably coz there's so much to see on tv or probably coz more women are wearing niqab and abayas now.
Yup I noticed the same.....
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diwana I disagree. I know people date in Pakistan but I have never seen a guy approach a girl he doesn't know in public and ask her out. Whereas in other countries, I have seen people do just that. On campus, at the library, coffee shop, the bar, clubs etc.
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diwana I disagree. I know people date in Pakistan but I have never seen a guy approach a girl he doesn't know in public and ask her out. Whereas in other countries, I have seen people do just that. On campus, at the library, coffee shop, the bar, clubs etc.
That is different I was referrng to some stranger who men stare at. It all depens on the circumstances. Even then that is not so common as you implied. Hesitation is not so uncommon even in places you mentioned.