So what’s the deal? I’ve noticed a lot that women, especially the ones recently married (one or two years), especially the ones back in Pakistan tell the other non-married yet to be married girls things like “tumhain shadi kay baad baat samajh aye gi” and then this follows by a very evil, smug look that implies that now that they have been married the world has opened its entire baqsa of secrets. What is it? Is it something dirty that we can only learn once we sign our names on the dotted line? Is it that now we can openly discuss about kids poop and pee and stuff?
Cuz seriously they make it out to be something SO grand, so amazing and secretive that ones that are unmarried, no matter how old are too naive to get it. Yeah you know you’re married but that doesn’t mean you’re an oracle all of a sudden. And to be honest, it’s those ones that i’ve seen to be extremely unsure about what it means to be married in the first place. but yet, “tumhain abhi nahin pata chalay ga. shadi kay baad hi pata chalay ga ”
i think, before wedding when u r living wd ur family they tolerate everything n manage wd love n peace but after marriage u not only managing ur after-marriage life (u know what i mean) also u have to manage the desires, good n bad of the in-laws n ur hubby as well… there’s a huge change in girls life. . . . physically, mentally, hormonelly plus other things as well
I dunno…I guess there’s some things that only a person whose married can understand…its not big secretive stuff but small minute things, or even the weirdest thing…its just like with parents and non parents… some mommies can bond over their kids’, uh, digestive habits shall we say, things that would bore ppl without kids..
Just like people will believe "Degree Holder" more than a "Non Degree Holder" for tech talk even if non-degree holder is saying right, people believe "shadi shuda" more than "ghair shadi shuda".
Think of it as a "degree". No matter how intelligent or understanding you are, you will still be considered jahil without this "degree"
so are you a graduate? i am looking for my 2nd masters :)
i think people these days make it sound so gay and sucha hype etc. I mean come on , you are happily married good for you why tell the rest of the world? I hate people telling me their gay stories. cant stand it
exactly one of my friends do so..u talk to her about anything in the world and finally the discussion comes down to her hubby that how loving and caring and sweet and lovely and fermanberdaar and rich he is
Is it something dirty that we can only learn once we sign our names on the dotted line? Is it that now we can openly discuss about kids poop and pee and stuff?
Married people are miserable....so to hide that....they tell you that possess some 'secret' or are somewhat 'different'..........the only difference is that they are more miserable than before
^ I think we are going off-topic :)....... well people lie all the time......and yes it could be true that they were happy in first few years......but i was talking about the whole deal...
@Murgi Talk to someone who you trust , like your mother , sister , cousin , who would tell you if there is really some secret which they found out and what it is , or those folks who say "tumhain shadi kay baad baat samajh aye gi" are pulling your leg.
Remember someone you trust has the right to pull your leg once in a while so you have to tell them you are very serious about finding out the truth.
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plus other things as well 
