Re: the rishta process- demands
We judge inanimate objects all the time, don’t we? We can tell instantly whether one shirt is better than the other…whether we like one house more than another…whether we think a certain cat is nice etc etc etc. It’s an innate and automatic behavior; it’s built within us…and it does not switch off when looking at people. We look at celebrities and easily remark which one we feel attracted to and which ones we don’t. It becomes more offensive when it becomes more personal…in other words when we find ourselves on both the giving and receiving end of it. We know instantly whether we are physically attracted to someone…but some people will themselves to look past looks for other qualities and others have a harder time overlooking certain things. I think all of us…even those of us who chide for superficiality…have found ourselves “not that into” a person for reasons which others may find trivial. I don’t know what to think anymore. I’ve seen people who reject rishtay for various reasons that others deem objectionable… end up getting married at some point. So, that just makes me think k agar qismat main hai shadi…then it’ll eventually happen to the person it’s meant to be with