well … my rukhsati was a bit complicated. let’s put it at that
i got married in pakistan. my rukhsati didnt involve me throwing rice over my head … we didnt get a chance to do that … the “situation wasnt right”
anyhow … i’m not in pakistan now … and my mother is like go buy some bird food, take it in your hand, go around your head a certain number of times and throw it back … walk away … dont look back!
the only place i know of where there are birds (pigeons) is in a busy marketplace .. anyhow … i’m not going to do this strange thing with people watching me!
but mom is like do it .. you have to do this ritual to let us be in peace that “hamara zimma tosh posh”
do it for ur mother but as far as the "belief" part goes... no seeds are going to make one's life easier nor more complicated. Since when do seeds/rice have that power? Even the black stone in khana kaaba "cannot harm nor benefit" one in any way... so yeah do it for ur mother's relief and her happiness if u want to
there are so many things where i differ with my mom in such superstitions ... now that i am away ... at least i can relax i dont have to do all them. dad is also not up for many things mom does. but he just stays out of it "aurtein aur un k ajeeb kaam" he says ...
islamically there is no significance to it.. when I asked my mom about it, she told me that it used to mean that even though girl is leaving her parents house, their rizq will not decrease or something like that.. I say it's a waste of rice!!!
Sorry for being harsh but my 4 years old knows that throwing food on the floor is BAD thing and that makes ALLAH MIAAN naraz and that food get wasted and there are many POOR KIDS around the world who dont eat even once a day. Its pity that you at this age are even asking this question.
well nice that you’ve raised your daughter like so, and she doesnt have to grow up posting such questions at GS, and being mocked at :k:
i dont believe in many things my mother does, as i’ve said before … but because i’ve grown up with something, it takes time to detach oneself from any such belief. it’s not even about being able to detach … but more about this unconscious adherence to something that you’ve being indoctrinated with. you know you shouldnt do it, but something holds you back … not for yourself, but for your parents …
and i know the next argument would be about “this is exactly the mindset Quran talks about” … well … i am not talking about religion and morality here … it’s more of psycology and fighting with something you’ve been taught to believe, but you dont …
No one is mocking you but I just failed to digest the fact that a girl who is married (so most likely past her teen or may be in 18s/19s) is asking a question if she can throw food on the floor
No one is mocking you but I just failed to digest the fact that a girl who is married (so most likely past her teen or may be in 18s/19s) is asking a question if she can throw food on the floor :)
it's not food food.
you throw grain on the ground for animals to eat.
mum asked to throw bird seed.
rice is what is commonly done.
we often used to put the left over rice, roti, etc, on the rooftop so animals/birds could eat it ... it's rooftop, but still the ground of rooftop. sometimes outside in the garden too. this so that it doesnt go in the bin.
i was also taught not to throw food on the ground, but i am not talking about biryani here.
those people who are hungry, and dont have food at their disposal ... that's a different story ... in their situation ... they'd eat anything. would you condemn that too?
Shower yourself with flowers or throw some confetti, wasting good food whilst those around you are dying of hunger is obnoxious.
getting married in an expensive jora while there are people with no shoes to wear in the blistering heat of pakistan.
money is money. whether spent on flowers, confetti, rice or bird seed.
Guys ... why do you have to mock the poor girl who has an issue ... so far only bbq has given a proper answer and everyone else goes on and on about wasting food ... i think at this age farrah knows about this too ... so if you don't have anything meaningful to contribute move along instead of mocking the girl with the issue.
Farrah in my opinion if you feel embarassed then do it in ur backyard or roof top depending on the type of house u live in. If thats not working out then i say go really late at nite to that public place like 1 or 2 in the morning do your thing and come bak.
Guys ... why do you have to mock the poor girl who has an issue ... so far only bbq has given a proper answer and everyone else goes on and on about wasting food ... i think at this age farrah knows about this too ... so if you don't have anything meaningful to contribute move along instead of mocking the girl with the issue.
ok sir. Ainda aisee ghaltee nahee ho ge. is baar maaf ker dain.
